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thereâs so many different things going through your mind when a breakup happens and i donât think thereâs this one thing that will make it go away faster, but you can try focusing on yourself and things you like...you can find new hobbies, new friends, new places!
Cause yeah, youâre single now and it kinda sucks but it wont suck forever lol
idk what im saying, but bottom line is it gets better the more you put love towards yourself instead of them, youâll realize how much more you deserve.
Go crazyđ«šđ«š
Apr 9, 2025
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đI like to remember that time is on your side, it will get easier as time goes by just for nature of it. So focusing on going through the day-to-day the best you can while being kind to yourself and letting the days past is what helped me.
Itâs not easy, you have to go through the grief to come up on the other side.
But stick with the things that make your present more bearable and you WILL come up on the other side.
For me it was doing things for myself: listening to music, visiting close friends, cooking for myself, going on walks on nature, spending time alone and bored and finding new things I liked and enjoying my own company was life changing.
The loneliness is rough but it can be a great teacher (at least I like to think something had to come out of all that pain).
I guess it really depends on the break up the narratives you are telling yourself right now, but if you can be mindful about them, observe them, and let go of trying to understand and control everything they get less cruel. Right now you just need to survive and receive some kindness, later on you can build the story around it (Without the fog of the pain around it).
And for the love of god cut contact with them, their family and friends, at least for a while. rebuild yourself outside their zone of influence. Show vulnerability if you can, it can bring great support and lending ears, BE KIND TO YOURSELF (although have in mind sometimes over indulgence is not kind).
You will get through it, time is on your side.
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đ1. it reminds you why youâre on this path and the light and hope that awaits you on the other side
2. it feels more satisfying than the, â5 tips to get over someoneâ articles due to the inexhaustible content
3. you could text him.. or you could seek out that dopamine hit youâll get when you read a random reddit comment from 5 years ago that validates you in just the right ways and renews your strength for just that little bit longer! no depressive crashes here
4. again.. the VALIDATION. there is nothing new under the sun and you will get through this
5. the horror stories will help you appreciate that things arenât worse than they are <3
6. youâre basically playing therapist and detective, stitching together overarching narratives you may have missed while in the thick of it, psychoanalyzing the reasons for this breakdown, and most importantly realizing just how needful this move was for both parties. it all helps in bringing a sense of peace
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2. it feels more satisfying than the, â5 tips to get over someoneâ articles due to the inexhaustible content
3. you could text him.. or you could seek out that dopamine hit youâll get when you read a random reddit comment from 5 years ago that validates you in just the right ways and renews your strength for just that little bit longer! no depressive crashes here
4. again.. the VALIDATION. there is nothing new under the sun and you will get through this
5. the horror stories will help you appreciate that things arenât worse than they are <3
6. youâre basically playing therapist and detective, stitching together overarching narratives you may have missed while in the thick of it, psychoanalyzing the reasons for this breakdown, and most importantly realizing just how needful this move was for both parties. it all helps in bringing a sense of peace
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Apr 22, 2024
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âŁïžItâs a blessing when big changes come all at once. The absence of the relationship wonât be a hole in the life you had because youâre going to have a new one! Let yourself get caught up in all the adjusting youâll be doingâmoving, new friends, job search, gigs. Process, live the pain, etc. but in moderation⊠Itâs harder to move on and look forward to change when intense loneliness/inactivity feels like a sign that things would be so much better if you were just together again. Enjoy, build up a network of care. Lean on your friends and family A LOT. Prioritize seeing the people who love you. Get on a plane or a bus or whatever you have to do, it is essential to get quality time with the beloveds during this period of loss and transition. Speaking from experience lol xoxoxo good luck <3
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