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save your energy! telling people how you want to be treated won‘t make them change. if they don’t learn it for themselves by experiencing it, they’re likely to keep doing it.
May 16, 2024
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this might be pessimistic, but i think i’ve finally learned this lesson…
if you can recognize icky behavior in other people and leave at that first sign, you will have significantly more stable, meaningful relationships of any kind.
do not rationalize their poor behavior and give them the benefit of the doubt. move on.
i wish i started doing this sooner.
5d ago
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i have been in situations where it felt like i needed to be the better person for others to think im not hurt. times when i needed to be around people who hurt me really bad in life.
what i learned from that is, some people will never do you dirty again. others will 😂 and when i catch who will hurt me again, i keep them at a distance and don’t invest energy into maintaining anything.
forgiveness should not be guaranteed, and its difficult to have people come in your ear to say you need to forgive in order to move on. no you need ti just set boundaries around people who hurt you and move forward with it. there are so many people back in my college days where mutually things were so bad. will i apologize and forgive them? probably not ill just distance myself from those people and they become an afterthought.
Mar 9, 2025
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one of the most potent skills you can learn
I do this at work often and it makes/breaks the day
if you have a problem/question framed with a level head and willingness to negotiate or solve it, I will definitely have a great disposition
if you are in fighting fires mode or try to blame others for your lack of planning or foresight, I will be cranky and unpleasant and let you know
You reap what you sow
Mar 14, 2024
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- my lore is interesting
- people enjoy being around me
- my anecdotes are unique
- i don’t scare people
- my best is actually good
- i can perform hard tasks
- my confidence isn’t a facade
- i am a bundle of joy
May 6, 2024
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Builds character, confidence, and discipline. The only person in charge of your mess is you! When you get home you can turn the performance off! Naked time anytime!
Apr 17, 2025