It’s not glamorous and there’s a period where it feels really bad and it’s like why would I trust this freak with my deepest, darkest. But then after a couple years something will happen that you used to freak out about and you will notice that you’re not freaking out and you’ll realize that it took years to create your issues and it’s taking years to undo them but it’s happening.
i have a terrible terrible time with letting people go and my therapist has been drilling the statement “not everyone is for you” into my brain for months and i feel like i’m finally starting to accept it
My therapist is not a tough love kinda therapist. And I've maybe heard him curse three times. But we had been talking about the same issue for a while and I was trying not to ruminate, but I was also analyzing and pathologizing over and over. And finally he just said, sometimes you have to get the fuck over it. And it allowed me to imagine a life beyond the past, to not let the past define you. It's easier said than done to just flip a switch and actively choose a better way. To stop it from taking up so much space in your head. But sometimes you truly need to flip that switch and get over it.
