We analyze our mistakes and accidents but successful people typically donāt know what they did that made them successful (or it was money/connections).
2. If my brain says something rude about me, something that would make me want to punch someone who said it about my friend, I throw it right out. Not even I get to be rude to me.
May 25, 2024
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You should listen to other people
who are you to think you know better than everyone else. If you donāt trust anyone that is a skill issue
Jan 25, 2024
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Truly one of my biggest pet peeves. People are allowed to and MEANT to solve problems and think differently.
Mar 4, 2025
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Years ago, if a friend of mine was experiencing trouble at work or school or with their partner/other friends and asked me for advice or vented, I would very easily default to āquit!ā or ādrop outā or ādump their ass you deserve better king/queen/my liegeā
And as a result, no one improved, in fact we backslid into becoming reactive or destructive and eventually, bore no patience with one another because there was no good ground to stand on
Life has gotten better since I and others stopped abandoning ship at any sign of discomfort.
Donāt let your friends destroy their lives because you give them a stamp of approval!
Apr 22, 2024
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No screen Sundays. If I want to listen to music its CDs or radio. If I want to watch a movie, no I donāt. If I want to see a friend, I will make plans with them on Friday or Saturday to meet up. As a result, I read more, write more, and sit with questions like ādid Citizen Kaneās 50 year winning streak in the Sight and Sound critics choice survey end in 2012 or 2022? When did Stephen Merritt come out? Whats the etymology of Whitsun?ā
This is something that I have practiced off and on for many years but Iāve been doing it every week since December and I love the way that it just allows me one day of true freedom and rest.
Jan 22, 2025
Mar 3, 2025
My calendar this year has 52 of these week at a glance pages but I donāt think that way. So, I've been inspired by Ross Gayās Book of Delighs to start recording the little moments and sensations that bring me joy throughout the day. An analog pi.fyi, if you will.
heres some of what I have so far:
- Waking up to the sound of my upstairs neighborās footstep. It sounded nostalgic. Felt like company.
- Strawberry jam
- feeling tender for strangers: their lips, nail colors, their small wrists. Thinking of all the lives we hold gently.
- A young girl bought an LP at the bookstore just before I left. She stroked its cover with love
- Green tiles āthe mint shade always makes me think of Jancie
- Charlieās little bop and punch dancing to some German language punk
- lunch with Katherine, curry Brussels sprouts
- small talk at the photo studio. The photographer's brother was named after their dad, stole his identity, bought jet skis.
Jan 13, 2025