Typically it boils down to forming habits you aspire to have. Which is infinitely more difficult than it sounds unfortunately. Especially if you arenāt already aware of what causes what you donāt like about yourself. That takes therapy and introspection. Just remember that at the end of the day change canāt happen over night, or at least the change that counts. Give yourself grace and time to evolve, because at the end of the day thats what lifeās journey is all about.
Jun 7, 2024
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lots of great responses in this thread! just wanted to say that true change takes so much longer than we expect it to. I started on a journey of āchanging my lifeā and my attitude towards it back in 2020, and its only now in 2024 that Iām starting to see major changes that I can trace back to that original decision to improve my life. Sure, thereās been lots of rewarding little milestones along the way, but the big things take time.
The lesson is, donāt be hard on yourself if you make changes but your life isnāt tangibly improved next month. Make changes for your long-term future self :)
Dec 9, 2024
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if your desire to improve yourself is coming from a place of shame or negativity towards yourself, whatever you try and change isnāt going to last. this is coming from experience.
i tried and failed for years to change my health habits because I felt like I should lose weight or should be more fit. it wasnāt until I changed my intentions and language around it that things finally stuck. I wanted to feel stronger, to feel more energetic Rather than feeling like I should look or behave in a certain way.
for change to be lasting and positive, it has to come from a place of positivity and self love or empowerment. it has to be because you want to do it.
if you feel like you āshouldā change rather than feeling like you āwantā to change, that seems like a good place to stress test your intention.
good luck! I believe in you!
Dec 9, 2024
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something ive found over the course of the past year and a half is that personal change is completely unnoticed until you look at yourself and compare how you were in the past compared to now. every moment we are changing and that is the beauty of life. every conversation, every thought, and every action we have in our world is contributing to a personal change in the self. its a simple thought, that change happens over time, but a thought that we as humans often dont want to consider. its a hard thing to be aware of. that a personal journey takes a lifetime. if we could make major improvements on ourselves in one night we all would, but unfortunutely change involves millions of small, mostly unnoticed, steps that contribute to a prosperous life, whatever that means to you. some steps are bigger than others, for example quitting unhealthy habits, or cutting toxic people out of your life as much as you can, but most of it is a combination of living life and seeing things through all of the lenses. this is at least what i have learned through the start of my life and how i see change. is it possible to see change? of course. is it likely that most change will go unnoticed and only realized far later? yes.
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To startā> I donāt want this to come off as trauma dumpy, I am v happy with the person Ive grown into. Who I wouldnāt be if I didnāt have these experiences:)
Iāve moved around so so so much especially as a kid. I used to feel v guilty bc there were a lot of friends I left behind bc of circumstances beyond my control. This pattern became a trend that continued throughout my life. Went to 4 high schools; was going thru a lot, and was referred to as a ghost.
Having someone you didnāt even realize knew who u were say āomg! Itās been a year! We thought youād died, wow, how are you? Yk a lot of people tried to reach outā¦etcā completely changed my perspective on the world. I didnāt even realize the possibility I was really noticed outside of my immediate friend group.
Another case happened this year at university. I was chatting w someone from a class, their friends walk up to say hi, and one says āyour name is Sophia right?ā I said yes and assumed Iād just met her while drunk at a show. So I apologized, and asked her name/ where she was from and all that jazz. It got more awkward when she said we went to the same school growing up, same class and everything. I didnāt recognize her at all, but obviously she knew me, it was so bizarre. Continued to see her around campus nearly every day for the rest of the year Lolz.
It didnt all actualize for me until recently, and still makes my head spin. I canāt imagine how many people I unintentionally became a ghost to :// being perceived is crazyyyy
May 24, 2024
In this regard, to what I like to call a funk.
I feel trĆØs dookie. Lots of change in my life, and in times of instability I tend to fall off the horse- in a major way. Like many ppl. This past go round I have been excessively hard on myself over my general lacking inā¦ well almost everything. Ive come to the conclusion that there are times you have to give yourself more grace than youād like to. Maybe the pity party can last a couple more days than usual. I wonāt go into details, bc as those of you reading who have dealt with mental health struggles, it can be sort of gross. Sure. Thereās a ton I could be doing to put an end to my funk. Make more of an effort to dig myself out of the hole. But, at the end of the day I know I will come out of the funk in my own time. Faking myself out, and convincing myself Iām feeling better serves no one.
Making yourself feel worse over feeling bad in the first place is just wildly counterproductive. Just keep moving forward in time. Thereās a lot of it <3
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