I should preface this with saying that when I first met him I thought he was hot, but I was dating his roommate so it was off the table. And I did not really think of him in any way other than a friend for a long time
Until one day we were sitting in a circle with friends, he was across from me, wearing a white button down tucked into some jeans, chatting with our friend, and I found myself thinking I needed to go be on his lap.
Then sort of freaked out internally, and thus began months of moments like this coming up and me squashing them down until eventually I couldnât ignore the fact that I liked him and now we are married.
Jul 14, 2024
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He likes to say we met on Tinder because he knows it annoys me lol. Our very first meeting was on New Yearâs Eve of 2016 at a house party. He had the same name as one of our mutual friends (âSâ from here on out for anonymityâs sake) and I kept riffing with him about that and ended up hugging him when I left, my long hair got in his mouth and he still remembers that lol.
He was the drummer in my friendâs band and Iâd ask about him often; each sillygoofy funny tale made me more interested and led to a little facebook stalk session. My friend mentioned that they were going to a birthday party for one of Sâs friends. I begged if they could get me an invite and funnily enough that same day S saw us walking down the street and texted them âyou and your friend look good in red.â The invite was secured!
That night, I got all done up and went to the party and immediately got blasted on some sangria. I cornered S and talked to only him the ENTIRE party, mostly discussing a bracket my brother and I had made to determine the best disney channel original movie. He was so kind and sweet and funny and did not make a move! Which was a huge contrast compared to all the thirsty gross dudes Iâd normally encounter at parties.
For the next couple months, weâd see eachother around at coffee shops and exchange smiles and quick helloâs. One day on a beautiful early Spring afternoon I was sitting outside at a coffee shop reading Marx for homework and saw S. He sat outside nearby me and I said âok this is silly!â and told/asked him to join me.
We sat there for three hours as a rotating cast of characters came through. Weâd see friends and they join for a spell and go on their way, the funniest addition was my friend and her 12 year old brother. I had to get to class so we parted ways and I was still surprised he hadnât made any moves or even any objectifying comments, not that I wanted that, but thatâs generally the way Iâm used to men interested in me acting. I figured he had a partner, wasnât straight, or simply wasnât interested in me.
This was the golden days of Tinder so one night when I was trawling through the cityâs singles, I finally saw S on the app. This was my shot and I was not going to miss it! A simple âswipe rightâ would not do my, I used my daily free superlike and held my breath. We matched! I donât remember the first messages but it was something like âwell, finally!â and we planned the first date.
Apparently, he had a massive crush on me from our very first meeting and thought I was way out of his league so he wrongfully assumed my overt flirting as was just a platonic offering of friendship. We have been together ever since and are happily married and still more in love every day. He has gotten me through so much and I cannot imagine my life without him, love you my beautiful husband!!!
This is your sign to shoot your damn shot!!!
6d ago
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ok this is for my boyfriend and we were never friends technically since we met and started dating immediately but i was unsure of him in the beginning / thought he was cute and fun but no crush just yetâŚ
but then he came to pick me up at the station near his house on what i guess was our 3rd date and he was walking down with his headphones on and his curly hair was bouncing up and down and he looked like he was on such a mission, with a very cute serious look on his face. Iâm not sure why that was the moment but I felt like a sort of âpang!â feeling and after that I was pretty much in love :)
Jul 15, 2024
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Guy 1: wore his long hair in a braid one day, danced just while goofing off and he somehow made it look super attractive (reader: he can barely dance), posted a photo of himself âsnowboardingâ down a volcano during winter break, recruited me for his short film project that involved several takes at the end of my character hugging his character đ (weâre married now)
Guy 2: wore a suit to a wedding (this man normally wore cargo shorts and tshirts heâd probably owned for a decade, which thereâs nothing wrong with it was just a particularly stark difference lol)
Guy 3: merely made silent eye contact a few moments longer than usual while smiling đŤ
Girl 1: longtime friend but hadnât seen her face in a while due to long distance and her rarely posting pictures of herself anywhereâshe sent me some selfies and i was dazzled â¨
Girl 2: already thought she was beautiful and interesting but had a real âoh noâ moment when her eyes lit up as she spoke passionately about her favorite Victorian novel (also when she recalled exactly where an obscure quote from an academic journal had come from, inCLUDING the year of publication đ¤Ż)
Jul 14, 2024
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For some reason this brings me into my parasympathetic nervous system
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Humans have always danced. It is part of who we are, yet we have been conditioned to be self conscious, to think that we do not move our bodies good enough. Dancing is beyond judgement. Dancing is not a skill, it is our soul moving through our bodies, expressed in movement. Dancing is healing. Dancing is bodily autonomy. Dancing is FUN! Any feeling you are feeling can be moved through with dance yet even alone, you fear looking foolish. Kill the judge in your mind, shut the fuck up, and MOVE đ
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OH BROTHER THIS GUY actually needs a lot of empathy and understanding
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