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WOOF…

I feel like the advice is always “dont go with the crowd/don’t worry about people’s opinions/be yourself.” but what’s lacking in all that is the part when you are fully yourself and get to know that person, you then get to (have to) decide that you’re cool with who that is and that you’re worth your own time, patience, grace etc. It’s like meeting a roommate you’ve had for years but is on opposite schedules. “I know how you live but still you’re unknown to me, and what’s your fucking problem with doing the dishes.” I found that way harder than just having confidence in my taste or ideas, I had reform a relationship with the person I became while I wasn’t paying attention. and that’s what your Saturn Return is for BABY!

@champagnefluke

Apr 13, 2025

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Become a friend to yourself

So much of us can get lost in the relationship with others that we can give up parts of ourselves. Do those things again that you once did before you met 'what's-their-name'? Look in a mirror and speak to your flection as a friend. Giving yourself the advice and support as a friend to yourself. The longest relationship that you will ever have is with with yourself. Show up. Tell yourself the truth. Be authentic. Be yourself. Love and support yourself.

@gdannyboy

Feb 10, 2024

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Give yourself the time to know yourself like you would do with those whom you fall in love with

A little personal, but being non-binary, I grew up very dissociated from my body and my time, so I don’t remember a good chunk of my formative years and have retained none of my hobbies. Recently tho, I have been trying to piece myself back together, so I have been spending a lot of time on my own. Another thing about me is that I have crushes everywhere I go, so I spend a lot of time loving others. After breaking-up with an ex that made me feel very neglected qnd unappreciated, I decided that I was going to give myself as much love and attention as I give my crushes and lovers. This has changed me. I just let myself feel my feelings and get carried away by them. I get myself little treats and flowers, I get myself little treats and gifts. I organize little fun dates/plans for myself where I engage in new hobbies. Small manageable things that don’t feel too overwhelming to learn, like decorating Altoids tins with collage or journaling. By letting myself navigate the world through my feelings, I’ve discovered what I like, dislike, and developed little rituals and habits that I can then tell other about and share. Social media has helped me that way, surprisingly. I treat my instagram like a scrap book and use it to document my feelings with shitposts and photos; the visual story telling makes me appreciate the little things. Pinterest allows me to collect things I like and develop a taste with no effort and no consequences, and I end up with huge pin boards full of pictures and art I love and that make me feel particular things I can name and explore. This app has been good for that too. It takes time, love, self-compassion, and trust. Trust that the love others give you is legitimate. Trust that you are liked for a genuine reason. Trust that the mundane is magical by itself, love it for that. Trust that you don’t need to be special to be worthy of love, you can just be a person and that’s really cool <3

@ro

Mar 11, 2024

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realizing modern loneliness is partly due to encouraging, celebrating niche taste, thus decimating shared life experiences

Water cooler > niche crossover

@indianjones

Oct 13, 2024

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Process and experience

So vulnerable, I have to be sincere. European and American art galleries historically are not only promoters of great art, they are creators of markets. That may be where you could shift focus. Your worth is that you are young, eating rat, living a life of passion, filth, messiness, body horror (per my comment on such) unique and unknown to those with money. They crave you, not for your art. That's worthless to them. The art, as photographs per Sontag in my other rec, is simply a receipt that they owned a piece of your lifestyle for a moment. No one who will buy your art will likely give a fuck about your art. Stop seeking those. Find the Glengarry Glen Ross customers seeking life, escape from drudgery, a need to prove something to themselves. Let your art be that for them. Enough bs theory, now for implementation. You won't sell your art, but you can sell the frustration, bloodsweattears, dedication, sacrifice that drips from your post. You can do so by simultaneously reminding yourself you are not creating ART but CREATING art. Your work and worth is not on a canvas. It's not the art. It's in you, the artist.

@indianjones

May 11, 2024

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Intervene, ignorantly

A model friend/client and I stepped out from dinner for a smoke and were having a tipsy discussion about an issue with her company. Some doorman came up to tell us to move because we were blocking the entrance, which we weren't. I was irked, but my friend guessed he likely stereotyped her being in a lover's quarrel. Irked for a different reason, I called out, "Dude, we're discussing business! She's my boss!" In hindsight, I appreciated how he handled what he mistook as a domestic dispute by creating a false diversion to redirect our attention. Most people get involved in others' drama because they think they know better. Most people don't because they're insecure they're misunderstanding. He was appropriately in between.

@indianjones

Jun 5, 2024