So much of us can get lost in the relationship with others that we can give up parts of ourselves. Do those things again that you once did before you met 'what's-their-name'?
Look in a mirror and speak to your flection as a friend. Giving yourself the advice and support as a friend to yourself.
The longest relationship that you will ever have is with with yourself. Show up. Tell yourself the truth. Be authentic. Be yourself. Love and support yourself.
Feb 10, 2024
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1. You are not alone.
2. Build up your self worth. So when you are engaging with your friends / other people they get to see the real authentic you. being comfortable with yourself takes time but its worth it.
3. If fear of losing someone is holding you back and you find that you're pretending to be someone you're not... try and be your full authentic self. if they reject you, they arent your ppl.
4. sometimes we are isolated for a small time so that we can be more comfortable spending time with alone and having fun doing it. one season of my life i learned how to knit. This is your chance to explore and try something new. You may meet your people in the process 💚🫂
Feb 26, 2025
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A little personal, but being non-binary, I grew up very dissociated from my body and my time, so I don’t remember a good chunk of my formative years and have retained none of my hobbies. Recently tho, I have been trying to piece myself back together, so I have been spending a lot of time on my own. Another thing about me is that I have crushes everywhere I go, so I spend a lot of time loving others. After breaking-up with an ex that made me feel very neglected qnd unappreciated, I decided that I was going to give myself as much love and attention as I give my crushes and lovers. This has changed me.
I just let myself feel my feelings and get carried away by them. I get myself little treats and flowers, I get myself little treats and gifts. I organize little fun dates/plans for myself where I engage in new hobbies. Small manageable things that don’t feel too overwhelming to learn, like decorating Altoids tins with collage or journaling. By letting myself navigate the world through my feelings, I’ve discovered what I like, dislike, and developed little rituals and habits that I can then tell other about and share.
Social media has helped me that way, surprisingly. I treat my instagram like a scrap book and use it to document my feelings with shitposts and photos; the visual story telling makes me appreciate the little things. Pinterest allows me to collect things I like and develop a taste with no effort and no consequences, and I end up with huge pin boards full of pictures and art I love and that make me feel particular things I can name and explore. This app has been good for that too.
It takes time, love, self-compassion, and trust. Trust that the love others give you is legitimate. Trust that you are liked for a genuine reason. Trust that the mundane is magical by itself, love it for that. Trust that you don’t need to be special to be worthy of love, you can just be a person and that’s really cool <3
Mar 11, 2024
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I’ve been used to suppressing myself my whole life that i find it difficult to know how im actually feeling or what im actually thinking sometimes. It made it harder to love myself or do things that are good for me. But i always knew how to show love and care to others around me. i realized (quite recently) that i can show the same love and care if i treat myself like another person. I’ll just be sitting down listening to her(me) for a long time, no judgement. It’s a seemingly simple act, but something i havent made the space for until now
Apr 7, 2023
