put on a cute outfit that i like and go look at books in a bookshop with no plan on buying anything. take myself to dinner in a sit-down restaurant after, then head home and relax with a cup of tea. music in my headphones during all of it, probably a mix of sad and more upbeat stuff.
that’s the closest thing i have to a cure-all right there.
Jul 25, 2024
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whenever i start to Feel Real Bad i delete all the social media apps on my phone and i force myself to go outside into nature more, see other people, and read easy/shorter books (that aren’t sad). i journal to get any bad feelings out and to help think through why i’m in a funk. i clean my sheets and try to not be in my bed from 10am-9pm. i paint my nails. i dance in my room. i try to switch up my routine, and also put more effort into my outfits and fun makeup (personally it makes me feel more functional). i don’t have a therapist right now (working on it!) but talking to one usually helps me. i go to people i trust for advice, bc sometimes the funk comes from feeling overwhelmed. i also try to listen to lots of fun music like house music and indie pop. i’m not great at doing all of these things each time but a combination of them usually does the trick for me !
Jul 5, 2024
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I like to go for a long walk + look at what flowers are in season. Also anything that keeps my hands busy is good—knitting, cooking, folding laundry. Tidying my space, opening a window, lighting an incense make me feel calm, refreshed + as though I have agency to exercise when the sadness-inducing thing is beyond my control.
TV and phone time are typically bad when I am sad; books and music are hit or miss
Jul 25, 2024
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i think that there’s a level to which this is possible physically (calling out sick or skipping class if you’re a student or whatever) but even if that’s not possible emotionally checking out + going through the motions and making space and time for your recovery afterwards is almost always how you beat a bad day
for me if the vibes are atrocious beyond reason i’ll call out of work, clean my apartment, then go for a walk, go to the jewish deli and get an egg + pastrami hash on a kaiser roll and a coffee, then go home and either watch tv, play video games, and if i’m feeling up to it later do some kind of writing or reading or other enrichment activity (and sometimes enrichment just isn’t on the table at that’s cool too)
whatever your comfort rituals / little treats are, pull out all the stops and really just stop for a second, take a breath, and let yourself just be, and it’s guaranteed to make getting through it easier by making the day less hard, or giving yourself something to look forward to afterwards
Apr 4, 2024
