40-60 year old people get laid off daily after 15+ years in an industry and have to restart. You’re too young to even know life’s all about restarting and it’s all relative. Fall in love with the process of learning and it’ll never be scary. You might even end up loving what you pivot too. You’ll be fine.
Aug 5, 2024
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At 23 I had just been married for a year, working an office job, swearing that I’d live in an apartment forever, driving this car I hated and unsure what I wanted in life.
At 30, I’m eight years into marriage, and almost three into parenthood. I have had 3 different jobs since 23, we bought a house a year ago, and both my wife and I drive our ‘dream cars’ (an old Lexus truck for me and baby blue Subaru for her — we are normal people) and both working in the fields that we dreamed of. For my wife, she left her career in bridal and had two corporate jobs only to pivot back into a greater bridal role, and for me I’ve done misc jobs and ended up in this hybrid stay at home dad / teaching / design mix.
Life looks so different than it did at 23. You starting over at 23 is fine. And it’s fine at 27. And at 30. And 34. And 41. And 47! Life is all about starting over. Different versions of you will be birthed and die over and over for new ones to take their place.
You’re going to be fine. Start over and over and over again. Life is all about restarts!
Aug 6, 2024
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I think right when you graduate college you’re under the impression that you need to pick a job/path and stick with it… and that’s your career! (What I thought. What many of my peers thought.)
In reality as I live through my 20s: it seems that the more satisfied people have reconsidered their path, or maybe done a career switch, or applied to grad school when they never thought they would.
My brother is joining the workforce for the first time in a few months, and I just keep encouraging him to be really critical of his job and critical of his life - because I think it’s great to identify what you don’t like and go ahead and start making moves towards the next thing. Inertia will often be against you, so you have to start slowly pushing thought the molasses asap.
I also think it’s easy to become complacent in whatever you’re doing and delay change just because you’re scared. However, consider that when you talk to older people they’ve often lived so many different lives and had so many different careers and relationships and hobbies and travels…and you’re not going to have that same experience if you don’t quit and restart and shift and move and shake alot.
All this to say, I think you don’t have to be so stressed out about whatever comes first after graduation because ideally it changes so so so many times.
Maybe the grass is greener if you can just be satisfied and sit still, but I wouldn’t know.
Mar 27, 2024
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16 years old was a weird time for me. it was the second time in my life I came out and being trans, and I have a huge memory gap right before the tail end of being 16. it's weird that I don't remember much of it anymore.
I think my biggest take away is that it hurts to let your perspectives change as you age, but you just have to let it happen if you want to grow. a lot of people you'll find in adulthood are stuck in mindsets and worldviews that form around their 20s, informed by things they vaguely remember as teens. not that there's anything wrong with it, just that I personally feel that the teenage years might be the most self aware time of your life, while simultaneously being carefree for some. life at 23 for me feels like constantly having to work backwards - why do I believe this? why do I have this bad habit? why am I struggling with this same thing over and over? I feel like you still struggle with that when you're 16, but in your 20s the layers on top of the problems begin to form. and you can't avoid them, nessecarily. it's just easier to figure out why you have certain habits and beliefs before time obscures them, even without the memory loss I have.
as you control your own life fully you find it harder to get out of more intricate ruts.
the reality is, that we don't know everything. 16 is a time in your life when people almost demand you start planning for your future. and there's nothing wrong with that, nessecarily. but nothing is future proof. we have to live with a grain of salt and not get too involved in things that hurt. that gets harder to do as you get older, get stuck repeating old patterns. but practicing introspection and curiousity in your late teens is a great way to keep that muscle up as you get older. because things will change - facts, ways of life, even your opportunities you have. it just pays to be humble but optimistic.
also everyone's lying being an adult is pretty cool. I might be biased but I love having autonomy and a life and being taken seriously and getting older. never thought I would have any of those things. taxes suck but it's once a year and we have TurboTax now who cares. working sucks the most but it's just like going to school. you plan life around that chunk of time. only as an adult it's super flexible what you want to do.
also things hurt more now than they used to already. I've started grandma-maxxing with cardigans and canes.
Apr 13, 2025
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Put gloves on and seperate 20 cartons of eggs, idk
Mar 19, 2024
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Just where what you want.
Feb 4, 2024
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If you don’t like the result then you know your answer.
Sep 3, 2024