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So fundamentally insecure, yet purposely overt rights-warriors thus inadvertently led to accept being treated like disposable shit because their cunt, insecure partners (like themselves) are upfront and respectful about it (detachment theory! ✊🏼🍆), that experiencing their reaction to a first-time, explosive, passionate, earth-shattering, actually caring, scary-as-fuck unmoored love is crazy fun. Pretty sure it applies to all genders/sexualities, except maybe lesbians (though probably so, and I'm just biased toward lesbos for naively thinking they possess higher feminine power unattached to the patriarchy.)
May 26, 2024
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- have a firm handshake. this is an unspoken way that a lot of self-indulged men like to measure themselves up against the person they have just met. don’t me afraid to squeeze their hands.
- as dangerous as the “ask for forgiveness, not permission“ saying is, sometimes it is necessary as the older generation of men don’t want to hear what you have to say.
- dress appropriately and conservatively, it is the only way to be taken seriously
- stop apologising, because they don’t.
- don’t let yourself be interrupted, call them out and declare that you haven’t finished speaking.
- learn about their hobbies, it helps to appeal to their broad interests to strengthen your bond, because you need to make your mark (f1, golfing, etc)
- don’t be afraid to lean into your femininity, the older men sometimes crumble when you bat your eyes a little and are more likely to agree or listen to what you have to say (unfortunately, but consider it a super power)
Mar 5, 2025
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The whispers, boos and hisses that occur when I enter a room is titillating. conservative Australia doesn’t know what to do with me, I have a kind of will she/won’t she with procreation that is having them all on the edge of their seats. A reply of: ‘no I’m not seeing anyone’ at a function once made a 62 year old man faint. I live for the drama
Jan 25, 2024
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Oct 13, 2024
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So vulnerable, I have to be sincere. European and American art galleries historically are not only promoters of great art, they are creators of markets. That may be where you could shift focus.
Your worth is that you are young, eating rat, living a life of passion, filth, messiness, body horror (per my comment on such) unique and unknown to those with money. They crave you, not for your art. That's worthless to them. The art, as photographs per Sontag in my other rec, is simply a receipt that they owned a piece of your lifestyle for a moment. No one who will buy your art will likely give a fuck about your art. Stop seeking those. Find the Glengarry Glen Ross customers seeking life, escape from drudgery, a need to prove something to themselves. Let your art be that for them.
Enough bs theory, now for implementation. You won't sell your art, but you can sell the frustration, bloodsweattears, dedication, sacrifice that drips from your post. You can do so by simultaneously reminding yourself you are not creating ART but CREATING art. Your work and worth is not on a canvas. It's not the art. It's in you, the artist.
May 11, 2024
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A model friend/client and I stepped out from dinner for a smoke and were having a tipsy discussion about an issue with her company. Some doorman came up to tell us to move because we were blocking the entrance, which we weren't. I was irked, but my friend guessed he likely stereotyped her being in a lover's quarrel. Irked for a different reason, I called out, "Dude, we're discussing business! She's my boss!" In hindsight, I appreciated how he handled what he mistook as a domestic dispute by creating a false diversion to redirect our attention.
Most people get involved in others' drama because they think they know better. Most people don't because they're insecure they're misunderstanding. He was appropriately in between.
Jun 5, 2024