I think in my experience on a more emotional/personal level, for every new person or new life experience I gain, it reminds me of my older sister who passed away a few years ago. Like, when someone laughs so wholeheartedly and the way their eyes squint slightly at the same time, or even to how someone would gush over their favorite celebrities, or their new obsessions on tiktok and IG, I see bits and pieces of her in them.
Some days are a bit bittersweet, but on other days it almost feels like a breath of fresh air. Like, even in the ways I reminisce on her and the memories we shared both good and bad, no matter the time and death between us, it feels like she's there sometimes saying "Hi" in her own way.
I like to think of it as a small balm that helps relive and heal the inevitable grief that follows the Hello's, good bye's, or even the simplest passing glances of someone/something(s) that reminds me of her.
Aug 14, 2024
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It's a rec and anti rec at the same time.
Just saw an insta profile recommended to me of my best friend from middle school. Seeing her very happy even though we don't talk anymore since I moved makes me happy for her somehow. Though I'm mad at myself for not living through her life steps, since we're not friends anymore. I miss her and our friendship.
I'm moving back, but I don't think we'll go back to being friends again. So I'll just remember the fun time we had.
May 23, 2025
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oh, how I LOVE a "remember when we...". Those were always my favorites: to reminisce, to share a laugh over silly stories, to realize that someone cares just as much as you about that one memory you hold close to your heart
Apr 25, 2025
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I was actually just thinking about this again earlier today. I love that it’s like I’m carrying pieces of all the people I’ve loved throughout all the lifetimes it feels like we live in just one, simply by picking up all these pieces of others to make into our whole self. Even the things I’ve gathered from people I don’t talk to anymore feel so special because once they meant so much to me and the love from that version of me and them lives on.
I say “you’re a peach,” when someone does something helpful for me because a childhood friend of mine once said the same thing to me. I’ve always written things like 7s and Zs with the line through the middle because the student teacher my class had in 1st grade was also in college for science and wrote them like that, and I’ve done it ever since. I grow marigolds in my garden every year because of the neighbor I had growing up who would let me help her garden when I was a kid even when she was going through chemo, and now I love the smell. I love punk goes rock/pop because of my older brother; he’s also the reason I learned to play guitar. The vanilla lotion that I wear because a friend who was probably the closest I’ll have in my lifetime wore it.
I also love the reverse. I know I’ve influenced my friend’s jewelry. I know one friend started wearing purple mascara because I do. I’ve influenced several people’s fragrances, or shoe/purse choices. I love to think that whenever they put on something or say something that they got from me that they think of me fondly.
Jun 3, 2025
Top Recs from @danahea_
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I've been burning more and more music into cd's lately and been enjoining the experience of physical media. My mom used to have a bunch of CD's and cassettes when I was a kid and have honestly been getting tired of paying a monthly subscription to music apps. I got a decent portable CD player on Amazon for like $20 and thrifted a bunch of blank CD's and a CD case at my local Goodwill.
Oct 25, 2024
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Genuinely I'd probably pay off my school debt which thankfully isn't TOO high but other than that probably help my mama pay off her bills and medical shit and get my siblings a few nice gifts that they'll prolly like.
Aug 8, 2024
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Most of these are hiphop and rap but these are a few that I've been listening to lately either when working out or even just going on a walk.
- Big Dawgs by Hnumankind, and Kalmi
- Sundress by A$AP Rocky
- 4,3,2,1 by LL COOL J, Method Man, Redman, DMX,etc
-Vomit by Travis Thompson, Nima Skeemz, P-Lo
- On my Shit (Freestyle) by Snow Tha Product
- City in Motion by Yonny
Aug 8, 2024