Give people your number. Text, call, make actual plans to hang out and put them in your calendar. Also it may seem annoying, but you have to tell people you are leaving the platform so they know to reach out to you else-how. Take the initiative to be the one to reach out to build the habit of actually catching up, rather than passively consuming life updates via “content”
The dirty little trick of social media is locking you in via the relationships you are trying to sustain. It’s hard AF, but once you’re out, you’re out!
Aug 24, 2024
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I think it’s important to just communicate more intentionally outside of apps! Figure out what channel will be best for communicating with the people you love, if you’re sick of socials maybe primarily texting, email, maybe physical mail. One of the biggest things I see from people trying to quit these big socials is that they don’t want to leave their main method of communicating with their loved ones, and I think the trick with these apps is they’ve made themselves so convenient for sharing, sending, posting on stories and wall, that we aren’t really communicating with people in meaningful ways on there anyway. So let the people you care about know that you’re leaving your account up to not lose your photos and memories, but that you will be stepping away from social media, and tell them where they can reach you! Make an effort to reach out to start conversations over the first couple of weeks as well, because that will probably be when you’re most prone to reaching back for social media but soon you’ll realize how much you don’t actually need it.
Jan 20, 2025
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do y’all ever think about getting off social media but then you worry about how you’ll keep in touch with your friends? i’ve been thinking about this a lot bc i wanna delete ig but it’s where i talk to some of my rly close friends. i hate that it monopolizes connection like that. but i also had this realization that like the people i follow/follow me on ig are not “friends” they’re just superficial connections. real, deep, long meaningful relationships (which i’m craving) i think do require me to get the fuck offline and take the time i was mindlessly scrolling and putting it back into myself or my friends is where i’ll see the greatest positive feedback. and being PRESENT in those relationships. i feel like this is what that book the dopamine generation is about butttttt haven’t read it yet.
Feb 4, 2025
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obviously just uninstalling the apps help, but that's easier said than done because we usually have a reason we're using social media in the first place.
changing the way you receive information is really the key. the problem with social media is primarily that it trains you to have a passive role in receiving information / art / media, and that's what makes it possible for it to suck so much of your time away.
- for news, download an rss reader and actively seek out and follow some writers and publications you trust
- for events, subscribe to local newsletters. many venues have them, and if they don't, there's typically a local publication that has one specifically for events.
- for communication, just try to get the numbers of people you'd otherwise DM, or better yet, just start a discord (or something similar) for your friend group. my friend group has one, and it basically functions as our collective twitter feed.
i could give more specific advice if i knew your particular use case, but those three things alone will get you a long way.
Aug 27, 2024
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