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Give people your number. Text, call, make actual plans to hang out and put them in your calendar. Also it may seem annoying, but you have to tell people you are leaving the platform so they know to reach out to you else-how. Take the initiative to be the one to reach out to build the habit of actually catching up, rather than passively consuming life updates via “content”
The dirty little trick of social media is locking you in via the relationships you are trying to sustain. It’s hard AF, but once you’re out, you’re out!
The dirty little trick of social media is locking you in via the relationships you are trying to sustain. It’s hard AF, but once you’re out, you’re out!
Aug 24, 2024
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⭐I think it’s important to just communicate more intentionally outside of apps! Figure out what channel will be best for communicating with the people you love, if you’re sick of socials maybe primarily texting, email, maybe physical mail. One of the biggest things I see from people trying to quit these big socials is that they don’t want to leave their main method of communicating with their loved ones, and I think the trick with these apps is they’ve made themselves so convenient for sharing, sending, posting on stories and wall, that we aren’t really communicating with people in meaningful ways on there anyway. So let the people you care about know that you’re leaving your account up to not lose your photos and memories, but that you will be stepping away from social media, and tell them where they can reach you! Make an effort to reach out to start conversations over the first couple of weeks as well, because that will probably be when you’re most prone to reaching back for social media but soon you’ll realize how much you don’t actually need it.
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😃Instagram is not good for the mind. No duh. But what if it's been your main source of connection for the past 6 years? Everyone's online, everyone's in that group chat you haven't checked in a month, making plans for things you have no idea about, going places you're not invited to.
But is that really the case? Are your friends actually excluding you because you're not on Instagram? No, that's absurd. If they're your friends, which they are, they'll make the attempt to reach out and get you involved in those plans. Maybe it's not always in the most transparent ways but they will ask for you when you're not there. You're not missing anything. You're scrambling to download that answer, to satiate the people-pleasing, FOMO-feeling goblin in your mind, quick to dismiss the progress you've made so far.
Take a deep breath, and just call them. less chances of having your tone misread.
But is that really the case? Are your friends actually excluding you because you're not on Instagram? No, that's absurd. If they're your friends, which they are, they'll make the attempt to reach out and get you involved in those plans. Maybe it's not always in the most transparent ways but they will ask for you when you're not there. You're not missing anything. You're scrambling to download that answer, to satiate the people-pleasing, FOMO-feeling goblin in your mind, quick to dismiss the progress you've made so far.
Take a deep breath, and just call them. less chances of having your tone misread.
Jul 18, 2025
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🪫do y’all ever think about getting off social media but then you worry about how you’ll keep in touch with your friends? i’ve been thinking about this a lot bc i wanna delete ig but it’s where i talk to some of my rly close friends. i hate that it monopolizes connection like that. but i also had this realization that like the people i follow/follow me on ig are not “friends” they’re just superficial connections. real, deep, long meaningful relationships (which i’m craving) i think do require me to get the fuck offline and take the time i was mindlessly scrolling and putting it back into myself or my friends is where i’ll see the greatest positive feedback. and being PRESENT in those relationships. i feel like this is what that book the dopamine generation is about butttttt haven’t read it yet.
Feb 4, 2025
