paired with “good enough is better than perfect” — this has helped me (a chronic perfectionist) balance staying on top of my goals while not being so hard on myself.
The best advice I've found, especially as a perfectionist. As someone who always strives for flawlessness, I've realized this mindset can often hold me back. It's easy to get caught up in making everything just right, but that can lead to never finishing projects or, worse, never starting them. This advice reminds me to focus on completion rather than perfection. It's about making progress and not letting the fear of imperfection paralyze you. You can always refine and improve something once it exists, but you can't improve what you haven't created yet. It's about striking a balance between quality and actually getting things done
this mindset was taught to me when i first started running (thank you coach she’s a real one 🥹) and i guess this applies in other aspects of life, like building habits.
also this is a very personal fuck you to perfectionism bc i finally finished updating my 2024 portfolio wooooooo celebrating incremental progress and focusing on building momentum is better than letting perfectionism drag you down 🙂↕️
I still struggle with perfectionism, but I've found that outside of VERY specific academic contexts (which no longer apply to me now that I'm out of school), done is better than good. Having a product that is 80-99% of the way there is usually enough for whatever it is you're doing. NOTHING needs to be perfect, because perfection is, quite frankly, unobtainable. In academia, the consequences for late/incomplete work were FAR greater than submitting something that wasn't "perfect."
I know it's easier said than done, but as soon as you start judging your work on a scale of "doneness" rather than "perfection" you can figure out how you work, and from there you can approach projects with new efficiency, and eventually your work will be both done AND good. Both good enough to submit, and good enough to be proud of. Don't hold yourself to the impossible standards, and you'll be alright!
love love love lentil soup. it’s so comforting and also keeps you feeling full and satisfied. i’ve made minor tweaks to the recipe i linked:
- add 2 cloves of minced/pressed garlic after the onions and celery have sweat
- add 1 tsp each of turmeric powder and cumin powder
- use both the zest AND juice of the lemon
for the last few years I’ve booked off work for my birthday and treated myself to a me day. this consists of scheduling a massage or facial (truly the best), splurging on a nice lunch and dessert, and sometimes a movie!