Longer than it probably should be for me to explain this but I love discussing this stuff:
Whether I am thrifting or getting something brand new, it is important to me that the fabric feels good against my skin, that it either fits how I would like or I could do minor adjustments on my own, and I need to like the colours. Whilst I have had a style evolution, its more so in how I express my tastes than the contents of them. I have always liked some variety to the textures of the fabrics that I wear, I love unusual colours and fun prints, and I look for silhouettes that are sharp.
My style is basically eccentric librarian which aligns with both my tastes and my lifestyle so during the day to day I wear a lot of button downs, blazers, and heels, with a lot of the prints being stripes, tartans made out of a lot of wool, corduroy and cotton. When I am more casual there is a lot of jeans, well fitting t-shirts, flowy dresses and minis, this is when I tend to be more playful with silhouette.
I tend to wait for items to go on sale because given my tastes, the clothes that I want tend to be unpopular because people think that they would be difficult to style, or would stick out in their wardrobe. Strategically I also go to the "bargain bin" at thrift markets for the same reason lol. After the sales/bargain I will see if theres anything on my mental list that I want, and I will just try on the things that catch my eye. Then if I want accessories I look at sterling silver pieces and vintage ties and scarves. I get a lot of my shoes from my older sisters' wardrobes (and tbh a lot of other clothes, we are close like that) but if I buy them they tend to be in line with a pair I had and wore until they fell apart. Then when I have my things I try them on one last time, make sure they are within budget and get them.
My rule is no impulse buys. If I want to buy, I save and make a list with the date that I will go get the thing. I mull over it and think about why I want it in my wardrobe and then I get it. Style icons for me are Mary Quant, Myha'la, Cree Summer and Robin Williams. And I'd say the fashion journalists/bloggers/commentators/educators that I keep up with are Derek Guy, Lakyn Carlton and Cora Harrington.
Sep 13, 2024
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I really love clothes. I can't help but sink most of my money into my wardrobe. I've had lots of different eras with what I wear and each stemmed from a fascination/obsession with something.
Growing up in the peak of the vintage store era made me dress so (arguably too) creatively when I was a teen. We had a really amazing and generally well priced vintage shop that was filled with one off pre-80s pieces. I used to go out clubbing when I was 18 in 50s and 60s cocktail dresses. This was a great way to be ostracized by my peers who did not get it yet, especially as a weird looking teen, but yet I persisted. This era fused with an 'all black everything' The Cure/Bauhaus/Jesus and Mary Chain era of chunky boots, black skinny jeans and leather.
At 19 I moved to Paris to be an au pair and was determined to assimilate. I received copies of Caroline de Maigret's 'How to be Parisian' and Ines de la Fressange's 'Parisian Chic' and I haven't looked back since. My style is still so influenced by those books and Parisian style in general. I like wearing a mixture of simple and fun clothes. My daily uniform is almost always a graphic tee/shirt/plain jumper and wide leg jeans/tailored trousers/midi length skirt. I like my dresses to be bias cut and mid length. I love wearing suits. I like contrasting feminine and masculine pieces together. I have a huge amount of jackets. I like solid colours and rarely wear patterns. I wear a lot of black but I'm trying to change that. I generally don't wear jewellery. The only accessories I wear are sunglasses, so I have a massive collection. Same for shoes and bags. I walk a lot so I mostly wear trainers, and I don't drive so I invest in good shoes that are as comfortable as possible because they are my car.
My wardrobe is pretty androgynous and I regularly buy from the men's section. I have wide hips though (romantic kibbe) so it's taken some experimentation and some acceptance that clothes will never look the same on me as they do on men. My biggest style influences are Nick Cave (suits, shoes, textures) and Penelope Gazin (fun, hot, playful).
May 6, 2024
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When I was a wee twiggy girl approximately aged 16-23 I would just buy whatever I could find at thrift stores that was especially weird or interesting and didn’t have to think about what it looked like because I could just slap things together and look cute and quirky. As I’ve aged I’ve developed a gourmand tendency towards indulgence and, consequently, a figure a little more like Marilyn Monroe (not in the way a lot of women say it—no offense and bless them for living their truth—I’m speaking objectively) so my focus is like purely on finding clothes that fit me structurally that have very particular shapes silhouettes and details. I’m also careful about finding clothes that fit within an autumnal color palette to suit my complexion. I generally won’t buy clothes if they’re not made of natural fibers and if I’m thrift shopping or on poshmark I keep an eye out for pieces from designers I love. I look for things that fit with my well loved staple items and only buy something if I really love it because I don’t like to have a lot of stuff anymore. I love lush textures and fabrics for winter like velvet and fur
Sep 13, 2024
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Look at the six items you actually wear and note what you like about them: is it the color, the fit, the style (casual, formal, eclectic, etc.), brand, season, and fabric.
As an example, I feel most confident in structured, classic modern outfits— I look for all organic materials (linen, cotton, silk), I tend to stick to a few favorite brands for basics, and I keep a list of what I need to replace/what’s missing in my closet so I don’t impulse purchase vintage t-shirts when I need a fitted blazer.
Thrift stores are really great for exploring your style— so are mood boards. When you see an outfit you love online, take a picture of it or note what about it was interesting.
One thing that I think goes overlooked is underwear— a well fitted bra really changes how clothes, especially shirts, hang and feel. You’ll only wear an outfit if the underwear you wear it with is comfortable. So if you have a dress you love, but aren’t wearing it because it either requires shapewear that makes you uncomfortable, or a nude/backless underwear or bra that you don’t keep in your closet, you’ll get less wear out of the item.
Additionally, know your measurements. Your body size is neutral, but language around sizing isn’t, and it can be discouraging to shop when you have a vague idea of your sizes and end up needing to size up or down. Get a soft tape measure, and get your true waist, hips, bust, shoulders, inseam, and rise. I have a very high rise to my natural waist, and knowing that helps me shop for pants and skirts with less frustration over fit.
Lastly, it’s okay for it to take time— curating your style and wardrobe should be ongoing and thoughtful; a fast fashion haul won’t help figure out what you like outside of trends, and those clothes tend to break down quickly. If you can, try to buy well made versions of your staple items— resale and thrift stores are a great place to find real leather jackets, upscale basics, and one of a kind pieces that you can’t find elsewhere.
Jun 23, 2024
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Whether you need inspo, are curious about the discourse over the last few decades, want to get into a new hobby or whatever else, you can download open source magazine issues from decades past. They have magazines from as early as the early 1900s too! I have been obsessed with old video games lately so I have been looking at the old club nintendo magazines and it has been so fun. Like look at some of the covers these magazines used to have
Aug 7, 2024
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There is something about seeing someone be unconscious about something that they really love. The sincerity of it, the way they forget to be quiet if its in public, the way they gesture with their hands more. Its great 10/10 would recommend being passionate about your interests!
Jul 10, 2024
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Originally I went in with a double major in sociology and communications because I felt like I needed to major in at least one "sensible" major so I chose communications. But I took philosophy as my sequence and I fell in love with it. My then lecturer invited students to this philosophy symposium and he saw my interest in philosophy (I had never dared even think about why I kept choosing philosophy modules during my degree) so he said I could speak to philosophers there and ask them about their work so that I could also see what the field was like.
I almost didn't go but I went and I knew that philosophy wasn't a passing fascination for me. I didn't want to go because I was scared of having to tell my parents that I wanted my double major to be philosophy and sociology i.e. two interests that people told me were not a sensible career path. But I loved it and I realised that I could actually just go to the offices and change my majors and no one could stop me so I did. People were dubious of my decision but I ended up tutoring second years in modern philosophy, African philosophy and the ethics of AI, and now I am doing my masters, so I would say that it is a moment where I exercised my free will that worked out. It isn't my favourite because it worked out though.
It is my favourite because I was willing to risk it not working out. I exercised my free will fully knowing that it might "go wrong" and I did it anyways because I decided that the chance of it going right was worth it and I trusted myself to live with whatever the outcome would be. I still feel the electric sensation of being assertive in a decision that I made on the basis that I wanted to do something because it would make me happy, not because I was concerned with the shame of not meeting people's expectations.
Funnily enough I actually loved communications and I still keep up with research in it, its just that my favourite parts about communications are also not the "this will get you a job" sensible aspects of it, those parts were just okay to me. This decision had a domino effect on how I live my life, it got me back into making art, it made me interested in film, made me realise that I love teaching, and perhaps most importantly it made me brave. There is a version of me somewhere that is too timid and afraid to really live but instead, because of that one moment where I said "fuck it" and just did what I wanted to do without overthinking it, I am passionately and intensely alive. And prone to getting my hopes up lol.
Sep 27, 2024