definitely takes some time but so worthwhile! i personally love norayogurt and zigs_mom because of how both of them embrace their bodies without needing to be outwardly preachy or performative. as someone whos struggled with accepting her own appearance, its just inspiring to see other people who are SO CONFIDENT, so even if my style doesnt directly overlap with theirs, i find that their contents just a reminder for me to not be so critical of myself :-)
tldr - norayogurt and zigs_mom !!! they’re healing me 🥹❤️🩹
Oct 12, 2024
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To start, try to copy a style you really like. It’s gonna feel like a costume or like you are “pretending” for a little while, but as you wear it and fine tune it day to day, you will find yourself more comfortable in it. Or you won’t! Which means you just switch paths and try something new! It is about experimenting to find something that fits, and discomfort isn’t something to be scared of because it just means you are discovering what fits and what doesn’t!
Some people I look to for example are:
Jazzelle (uglyworldwide on Instagram)
Tory Zink (Torymua on Instagram)
Macy Higgins (macyeatspaint on Instagram)
Tank Girl (fictional character)
Nana (both nanas, fictional also)
A lot of old goth/ alt characters from the early 2000s
I also look to the people around me in my peer groups. I sell at art markets and go to a lot of queer events, so I’ve got so many things to pick and choose from!
5d ago
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(long winded yap sesh incoming apologies)
i spent waaaay too long a time being spooked by the mere thought of being perceived, and so i tried to blend into whatever group i was meant to believe i should fit into. i honestly think my fashion sense now is a combination of, like, quasi-exposure therapy, bc when you're walking around like a birthday clown u kinda just have to get used to people looking at u, and all that built up frustration with trying to fit in finally being let out, aka me finally just wearing what makes me happy
and i think it's easy to tell bc most of my influences are the things that make me the most happy. obviously there's the color palettes that give very cartoon character, but also i love color coordination and matching sets that also feels in that same vein, also very kitschy
also i wear my real life fashion influences on my sleeve. missy elliott and andre 3000 have always meant a lot to me, but also janelle monae, raja, tierra whack, rihanna, zendaya, grace jones, cl (all of 2ne1 tbh), lady gaga, shea couleé, gwendoline christie, beyoncé, jonte' moaning, etc. and etc. even in my most lowkey outfits, the influences still kinda peek through
but i'm also very influenced by my queerness, and queer culture in general. i think one of the hardest things about having to "fit it" was that i always felt like i had to embody a very cis/heteronormative of what femininity is, and that's just not me (maybe i'm just talking out of my ass, but i feel like there's sort of an understanding that there are differences between queer femininity and cisheteronormative femininity. like if i dress feminine the way that i want to dress feminine, it's not the kind that like a straight guy would want/expect from me). i think it's also just a universal experience that, when u grow up queer, anything that feels like it could accidentally "out" u feels scary, and honestly it feels like i wanna make up for all that time being scared. like, be the person younger me needed back then, y'know? the parts of my life that have made me feel the most me are the queerest; drag, theatre, ballroom culture, dance in general, and that feels more true to who i am
so yeah, idk it's not really like trends for me it's just what makes me happy. tee el dee dubz big princess dress at the grocery store energy
May 6, 2024
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@irisolympia
@mossy_socks
I just love the layered grunge and adventure vibes of both of these people. But also I feel like it's super important to find your fashion inspo out in the real world so that you can see if the style is actually wearable. Things are much easier to style for an online photo than for an actual workday for example.
Apr 1, 2025
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everything from ichiko is an absolute fking masterpiece but this song has had me in a chokehold, especially for those nights were i just can't fall asleep 🥹
Sep 25, 2024
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deciding to go to a concert alone is so huge, so yay on that !!
definitely agree with whats already been rec’d, but i actually found that going on my phone before events was rly helpful ? that and getting a drink before the show starts gives my hands sth to do, and makes me feel a lot less anxious about being there alone. i’ve noticed that lots of concert venues also tend to have rly shitty reception / data, which can be a good conversation starter with other people around u (esp if you see someone else by themself).
i’m a pretty anxious / self-conscious person in these types of environments, especially if i’m alone. i found that the act of going to a show alone wasn’t as scary as actually being there and trying to enjoy the moment (fear of being perceived and whatnot). i think i’ve had to learn over time:
a) which artists i actually like enough to go see and
b) using the post-concert regret to fight through the insecurities
HAHA tldr, i guess what i’m trying to say is no pressure if u go to a show alone and don’t have the best experience !! all of this is just a learning curve ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥 (but hope u have fun with this concert hehehe)
Oct 20, 2024
