this is actually a weekly ritual for me that I've been doing for like a year now. every weekend I block out at least 1 hour to just sit and 'waste time'. no screens, no music (these two are super important), just be outside and paying attention to the sounds and sights and smells. plus letting my mind wander. sometimes my wasting time is just a walk and taking film photos. or people watching. but the essence is you carve out a block of time to simply exist without any pressure to create or produce or do anything and to just do what you want. super grounding.
another thing I make time for is at least a one hour block to make something with my hands. can be press on nails, jewellery, clay, whatever. my brain struggles to be still and this is the only way I get the stream of thoughts to chill. also there is something so fulfilling about making something with your hands and seeing the product of your handiwork and toil (insert Dostoyevsky quote here).
Oct 23, 2024
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There have been times where to fill the void™ that I just work and do everything to not focus on the glaring obvious of an empty house - well empty plus a cat and a dog, but void of a humans touch other than mine.
I won't lie, it doesn't go away but! You can learn to live with it. Be sporadic with it; you want to go out at 2 in the morning when everyone is asleep, make the time and do it. You want to try something new, make plans with yourself and do it. Its takes a minute to figure out that doing things for you at your own accord can be just as fulfilling as doing them with others -sometimes-
Im a big fan of loosing time then gaining it back which is more or less, do things on a schedule (work/job) then when thats done derail everything and just set free, and not be guilty for 'wasteing time'. Its yours and no one elses while you're alone, you can always make it back up later.
Feb 28, 2025
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There have been times where to fill the void™ that I just work and do everything to not focus on the glaring obvious of an empty house - well empty plus a cat and a dog, but void of a humans touch other than mine.
I won't lie, it doesn't go away but! You can learn to live with it. Be sporadic with it; you want to go out at 2 in the morning when everyone is asleep, make the time and do it. You want to try something new, make plans with yourself and do it. Its takes a minute to figure out that doing things for you at your own accord can be just as fulfilling as doing them with others -sometimes-
Im a big fan of loosing time then gaining it back which is more or less, do things on a schedule (work/job) then when thats done derail everything and just set free, and not be guilty for 'wasteing time'. Its yours and no one elses while you're alone, you can always make it back up later.
Feb 28, 2025
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There have been times where to fill the void™ that I just work and do everything to not focus on the glaring obvious of an empty house - well empty plus a cat and a dog, but void of a humans touch other than mine.
I won't lie, it doesn't go away but! You can learn to live with it. Be sporadic with it; you want to go out at 2 in the morning when everyone is asleep, make the time and do it. You want to try something new, make plans with yourself and do it. Its takes a minute to figure out that doing things for you at your own accord can be just as fulfilling as doing them with others -sometimes-
Im a big fan of loosing time then gaining it back which is more or less, do things on a schedule (work/job) then when thats done derail everything and just set free, and not be guilty for 'wasteing time'. Its yours and no one elses while you're alone, you can always make it back up later.
Feb 28, 2025
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i don't think anyone ever intends to become a recreational ornithologist. but i've noticed that it definitely creeps up on you slowly in your mid-twenties. it starts with noticing how funny pigeons are, then learning pigeon lore, and suddenly you're feeding your neighbourhood birds every morning and buying books on birds. as a child i idolised the pigeon lady in home alone 2, and i woke up this morning and realised — i AM the pigeon lady 🐦
Mar 6, 2025
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reading is a habit of building and developing your empathy and critical thinking skills. you’re forced to sit with an idea for however long you are reading it and forced to contextualise it and comprehend it within your own life and perspective. You can’t just scroll away or pause or put it on 2x speed. you have to sit with it. it’s super underrated, but genuinely I’ve made this a habit for the last year and feel like a totally different person. also you come out of it having learned something new or seeing the world in a slightly new way. I literally do not see any downsides to reading. make reading cool again! also you don’t have to do it in one big block, you can space it out — 15 mins here, 45 there — whatever works for you!
Dec 9, 2024
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our cultural obsession with being perceived as cool is a disease. its peak capitalistic/consumerist propaganda. fuck being cool. like what you like and who cares if it's cool or not. it's tiresome and we need to leave it in 2024. literally nothing gives me the ick more than people who betray themselves in an attempt to be perceived as cool by the masses. be yourself — even if it means you're 'uncool'.
Jan 3, 2025