Sit down with your back against a tree. If it’s warm enough, place your bare feet on the ground. Lean against the tree and feel its weight.
Tell the tree about your heartbreak. Tell it the story of your love and about the person who you are missing. Feel the tree supporting you.
Do this over and over again - ideally once per day if you can. Your story will change - maybe getting shorter or longer or sadder or angrier each time.
Eventually, you will find that you don’t have anything left to say to the tree. Thank it and say goodbye.
Going out and experiencing the world has really helped me with this heart break I’ve been experiencing these past 8 months. Hanging with friends and loved ones helps (obviously) but I think it’s important to find yourself again as an individual too. Going to coffee shops solo, seeing museums/art galleries solo, movies, nature, long drives with your favorite albums & no direction.
1. it reminds you why you’re on this path and the light and hope that awaits you on the other side 2. it feels more satisfying than the, “5 tips to get over someone” articles due to the inexhaustible content 3. you could text him.. or you could seek out that dopamine hit you’ll get when you read a random reddit comment from 5 years ago that validates you in just the right ways and renews your strength for just that little bit longer! no depressive crashes here 4. again.. the VALIDATION. there is nothing new under the sun and you will get through this 5. the horror stories will help you appreciate that things aren’t worse than they are <3 6. you’re basically playing therapist and detective, stitching together overarching narratives you may have missed while in the thick of it, psychoanalyzing the reasons for this breakdown, and most importantly realizing just how needful this move was for both parties. it all helps in bringing a sense of peace !!