I'd hesitate to recommend this, because it can sound callous and glib. But it was suggested to me awhile back by a homeless friend—a guy who has lived most of his adult years as an alcoholic, spent decades on the streets, experiences pain in his body every single day, was repeatedly abused as a child.
He offered it as a way to reorient himself when he just wants to end it all.
It's a practice that I do often now too. Actually I need to do it today right now before I do anything else.
Writing a list of things we're thankful for doesn't change anything or deliver us from abuse or toxicity, but it can help us see clearly. In the process of making that list, the next good healthy step may reveal itself.
Nov 12, 2024
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nothing wrong with thoughtful self reflection and asking yourself sharpening questions
but it becomes unproductive when you slip into a downward spiral of self-lament
so sometimes you need to jolt yourself out of it
Being Thankful is a great way to do that
(On that gratutide list be sure to include some stuff about yourself that you are thankful for)
May 13, 2025
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It’d just be nice to remember what makes me feel whole before starting the day.
I’ve started meeting a pocket notebook on me at all times trying to reverse how often I reach for my phone generally but it’s a lot easier said than done! When I do think of it I try to write three things I’m grateful for before doing anything else.
Apr 20, 2024
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Start by saying to self: everything is fine. I am grateful, I am happy. I have all that I need. Listing things help alot too, they don't have to be big stuff, or special even. Just reminding self of good things that you didn't expect. And having health, looking well, having good food (generally provisions).
Look at selfies from past and now. Things that help me see progression or improvement.
Learn something slightly off or "not your thing".
Talk nicely to yourself, the way you would cheer someone you love.
Spoil yourself, and cut yourself some slack.
Trawl https://www.reddit.com/r/Damnthatsinteresting/
Listen to music that makes you feel good.
Work out, even if it's just a walk. Admire things you walk by. They don't need to be stunning. But the fact that you noticed, feels good to you.
Talk to a friend or a stranger. Complimenting someone is like complimenting yourself. It reveals more about you than the other person. You can compliment yourself too!
Caress your own face. breathe and say, I am loved, I am precious. Even if I don't know where things are going, I will be my own biggest fan.
Aug 23, 2024
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this is worthy of celebration: the lack of video—autoplay video, noisy inane video, panicky video, algorithmic, dumb video, rabbit hole video, any video—on pi.fyi is a good thing
Oct 5, 2024
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this is going to hurt — A LOT — but it's getting to the point where there's no other option
Mar 11, 2025