phones are tools to connect with yr friends they are not the connection. my fav (and worst) memories of my friends isn’t over text, it’s in person or even over the phone. texts and dms are tools to get to that connection, not where the connection happens.
constant access to our friends through social media and texts lulls is into thinking we’re connected, when it really isn’t true, i just know that u posted a photo of yr cat or that yr on vacation or yr state of being. that’s just information, not connection.
This is a tuff take and Ive lost friends over it, bc in truth, i wouldn’t meet their needs as parasocial/internet connection makes me so miserable and that can have consequences. it’s tough to loose them but I’m happier with people who understand me and vice versa.
Nov 15, 2024
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I’m tired of my friendships only being sustained through the exchange of memes and reels. i crave proper conversations- where the other person shows equal interest.
I’m tired of people pretending to not care or not be too interested or that they have other options?! ughhhh
we are all too scared of being perceived differently from how we wish to be perceived because of how much we get to control our image on the internet (read receipts off- can’t let them know i read their message)
It feels like people literally throw their phone away in the fear that they’ll seem too interested after they message you- which defeats the entire point of a conversation.
Feb 26, 2025
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This might be a hot take but i truly believe that real life friends should not be mutuals on my social media.
As a person i love my alone time, being online doesn’t mean i am available which seems like it’s hard to understand nowadays and a lot of people can even take it personally.
- Yes i am posting, yes my status is Green but do i wanna talk ? No.
Do i wanna reply to your Meme ? No.
I wanna use the internet to feed my soul, watch what interests me, listen to music, read articles, interact with the content that inspires me.
And because of that i am known to be the DND guy.
You texted me ? No notification.
You called me ? Voice mail
You sent me a tiktok thing ? I will reply when i am in the mood which could be within hours or days.
Mar 13, 2025
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social media *does* keep us in touch with friends we can't see every day. it's not just wishful thinking, it's actually a cool way to talk to people without having the hours-long phone calls people had back before SMS was common, or only ever talking to the people physically near you, or whatever.
the trick is, it's addictive. and it makes us all crave some version of success, whether it's more followers or just the attention of some particular person.
it's hard for us to just use it well.
Mar 31, 2024
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