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This might be a hot take but i truly believe that real life friends should not be mutuals on my social media.
As a person i love my alone time, being online doesnāt mean i am available which seems like itās hard to understand nowadays and a lot of people can even take it personally.
- Yes i am posting, yes my status is Green but do i wanna talk ? No.
Do i wanna reply to your Meme ? No.
I wanna use the internet to feed my soul, watch what interests me, listen to music, read articles, interact with the content that inspires me.
And because of that i am known to be the DND guy. You texted me ? No notification. You called me ? Voice mail You sent me a tiktok thing ? I will reply when i am in the mood which could be within hours or days.
And because of that i am known to be the DND guy. You texted me ? No notification. You called me ? Voice mail You sent me a tiktok thing ? I will reply when i am in the mood which could be within hours or days.
Mar 13, 2025
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šphones are tools to connect with yr friends they are not the connection. my fav (and worst) memories of my friends isnāt over text, itās in person or even over the phone. texts and dms are tools to get to that connection, not where the connection happens.
constant access to our friends through social media and texts lulls is into thinking weāre connected, when it really isnāt true, i just know that u posted a photo of yr cat or that yr on vacation or yr state of being. thatās just information, not connection.
This is a tuff take and Ive lost friends over it, bc in truth, i wouldnāt meet their needs as parasocial/internet connection makes me so miserable and that can have consequences. itās tough to loose them but Iām happier with people who understand me and vice versa.
constant access to our friends through social media and texts lulls is into thinking weāre connected, when it really isnāt true, i just know that u posted a photo of yr cat or that yr on vacation or yr state of being. thatās just information, not connection.
This is a tuff take and Ive lost friends over it, bc in truth, i wouldnāt meet their needs as parasocial/internet connection makes me so miserable and that can have consequences. itās tough to loose them but Iām happier with people who understand me and vice versa.
Nov 15, 2024
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šIām tired of my friendships only being sustained through the exchange of memes and reels. i crave proper conversations- where the other person shows equal interest.
Iām tired of people pretending to not care or not be too interested or that they have other options?! ughhhh
we are all too scared of being perceived differently from how we wish to be perceived because of how much we get to control our image on the internet (read receipts off- canāt let them know i read their message)
It feels like people literally throw their phone away in the fear that theyāll seem too interested after they message you- which defeats the entire point of a conversation.
Iām tired of people pretending to not care or not be too interested or that they have other options?! ughhhh
we are all too scared of being perceived differently from how we wish to be perceived because of how much we get to control our image on the internet (read receipts off- canāt let them know i read their message)
It feels like people literally throw their phone away in the fear that theyāll seem too interested after they message you- which defeats the entire point of a conversation.
Feb 26, 2025
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šInstagram is not good for the mind. No duh. But what if it's been your main source of connection for the past 6 years? Everyone's online, everyone's in that group chat you haven't checked in a month, making plans for things you have no idea about, going places you're not invited to.
But is that really the case? Are your friends actually excluding you because you're not on Instagram? No, that's absurd. If they're your friends, which they are, they'll make the attempt to reach out and get you involved in those plans. Maybe it's not always in the most transparent ways but they will ask for you when you're not there. You're not missing anything. You're scrambling to download that answer, to satiate the people-pleasing, FOMO-feeling goblin in your mind, quick to dismiss the progress you've made so far.
Take a deep breath, and just call them. less chances of having your tone misread.
But is that really the case? Are your friends actually excluding you because you're not on Instagram? No, that's absurd. If they're your friends, which they are, they'll make the attempt to reach out and get you involved in those plans. Maybe it's not always in the most transparent ways but they will ask for you when you're not there. You're not missing anything. You're scrambling to download that answer, to satiate the people-pleasing, FOMO-feeling goblin in your mind, quick to dismiss the progress you've made so far.
Take a deep breath, and just call them. less chances of having your tone misread.
Jul 18, 2025
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I canāt find the Creator and i am mad about it because i wanna credit the one who made sure to put this for free.
Iāve found this website RetroPrint where they show the details of how you can make a Windows 95 customised theme on your phone (with over 800 icons app to choose from 27 of them are already made for the modern apps like netflix twitter etc - some graphics for the widgets too And 3 sounds.)
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šThe fact that i can stay in bed warm with my phone or laptop and music in the background as i watch my favourite movies/series/youtube vids with a warm tea is simple enough to make me grateful for wherever i am today.
Worrying about what I should wear to work is a beautiful thing because itās a privilege that sadly some people canāt afford :(
Complaining about to cook is a beautiful thing because someone somewhere sadly canāt even afford/have access to a simple bread piece.
Literally feeling the warmth of the sun while standing waiting for the bus is a beautiful thing to cherish and be grateful for.
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If there is one style that literally calms me is stippling.
The endless dots, the slow process, the nuance effect, the final results.
I just love it and appreciate it even more when i spend hours/days to finish one.