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Trying hard is sometimes being looked down upon, it's not "cool". You know what, who cares. I get comments so often, like "your intense, you're such a try hard or why do you actually ...". I used to see it as weird/mean comments, until later when I realised some people just hate to see others actually enjoying themeselves. Another thing, the fact that I'm doing my best doesn't mean that I excell and tbh I used to find that a bit depressing. But recently I've learned to embrace the fact that it's actually quite nice to just do things, whatever the result. Def a change in mindset on things, but it has been a really nice change in mindset so far.
Nov 22, 2024
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It's funny isn't it, how often we compare ourselves to others when we are looking up and forward. Which is something I think you might be doing, looking forward instead of constantly looking back.
To preface I don't know you enough to make any assumption or tell you what to do, but this could be something you can fall back to that's in the back of your head whenever you feel this way!
Enjoy the little things! I doubt telling you not to feel this way or keep telling yourself you're awesome would work because they never worked on me, so just enjoy the little moments in life that makes you -- if not smile -- smirk a bit. You saw something that reminds you of a fond memory, you did something new that is small yet unique to you? celebrate those moments because those moments are what makes you inherently you.
Someone here also said familiarity of yourself can be a way making you feel lame, but isn't that also such a gift because you are so in tune with yourself? You know what you're doing even if you think they are nothing comparing to others.
And ultimately, maybe this could be a starting point for you to create/try/ experiment things too! If you think of yourself so far back already, what's to loose for you to break the status quo? right? Be the dryer sheet that could cause fire and burn down the entire house or something hehe. And if it goes to shit we just won't tell anybody about it. HA!
To quote what I've seen somewhere during my lowest low during the pandemic-
"There is no one like you, there has never been anyone like you, and there will never be anyone like you. Therefore, be yourself" beep boop bop beep boop
Feb 22, 2024
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This constant pressure I feel to be on top of trends, to be a trendsetter, and overall just be different from the crowd is soooo exhausting. The idea that you can never do anything original because "everything has already been done" is such a pessimistic way to view yourself and to filter your creativity through. But that constant strive to create and be something or someone unique only makes you feel like shit. At the end of the day no one is going to do something like you do it, you live a completely unique life regardless of everything that's ever been done or made. Who cares if in the end it's all just a jumble of things you've collected in your time? That's what makes it you. You are already unique enough.
(rambling on this site is my godsend)
Jun 9, 2024
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I change my appearance multiple times a year. I cut my hair and dye it. I try new styles. I get tattoos and piercings. I try new food. I do things for ME. I want to find my true self and interests and each day I get closer to who I really want to be. I feel I learn something new about myself everyday even if itβs small. (Iβm depressed + anxious too and it can be so hard but I remind myself that I canβt care about everyone else and their opinions I need to do what is right for me. and no it is not selfish to do things for you).
Apr 9, 2025
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I always found it hard to keep in contact with people since I'm not the best texter. Plus, I usualy felt like a floater friend, like I just wasn't in the loop cause people liked others more. Of course, growing apart is nothing bad and if they were truly like that, than it's better that I'm no longer friends with them. However, I got in contact with someone I hadn't spoken with for a long time and it was great. Life gets busy and a lot of people are full in their head from everything. It's not always cause they never think of you (anymore) or don't value your friendship.
Jan 26, 2025
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Hi,
This is my first rec, so I was thinking on what I should do. But then I thought about how I bought myself a small present not too long ago and that I recommend others to do the same every ones in a while. Sometimes things seem not so important or you feel like you come across as a spoiled kid in the grand scheem of things, but even the tiniest things can still be tough. So if you ever feel like you just finished something that has been quite tough on you, by yourself something small. At the end of the day you were the one that put in the effort. After one year of doing the work of two people due to someone on the team having burn out, I spontaniously bought myself a teddy bear. It can also work as motivation for the last stretch. Only disclaimer, only buy yourselve things you actually like, use and/or need. A small gesture comes a long way.
Nov 18, 2024