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Pretending it is possible to be ‘self aware’

I’m willing to be wrong about this but: You don’t know what you don’t know! can anyone ever actually be self aware when you‘ll never know what it is you’re unaware of? Idk when anyone says they’re super ‘self aware’ I just can’t believe it - i think we should all accept that whats most opaque about our personalities are things completely unbeknownst to us

@heidegirl

Feb 8, 2024

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“never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by neglect, ignorance or incompetence”

I try to remember this a lot when I’m frustrated with people. Nobody is out to get you. Others are thinking about themselves most of the time anyway. Communication is so important- people can’t meet expectations if you don’t make them known.

@rabidwell

Oct 4, 2024

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Direct communication

I was spiralling bad bc of assumptions I made. Instead of withering away in my misery, I asker the other person whether their thoughts aligned with what my brain had cleverly predicted. My brain had assumed wrong and caused a great deal of unnecessary distress. Let this be a lesson to us all (mostly future me): just because my brain thinks it, does not mean it's true

@jahnneke

Mar 27, 2025

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realizing modern loneliness is partly due to encouraging, celebrating niche taste, thus decimating shared life experiences

Water cooler > niche crossover

@indianjones

Oct 13, 2024

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Process and experience

So vulnerable, I have to be sincere. European and American art galleries historically are not only promoters of great art, they are creators of markets. That may be where you could shift focus. Your worth is that you are young, eating rat, living a life of passion, filth, messiness, body horror (per my comment on such) unique and unknown to those with money. They crave you, not for your art. That's worthless to them. The art, as photographs per Sontag in my other rec, is simply a receipt that they owned a piece of your lifestyle for a moment. No one who will buy your art will likely give a fuck about your art. Stop seeking those. Find the Glengarry Glen Ross customers seeking life, escape from drudgery, a need to prove something to themselves. Let your art be that for them. Enough bs theory, now for implementation. You won't sell your art, but you can sell the frustration, bloodsweattears, dedication, sacrifice that drips from your post. You can do so by simultaneously reminding yourself you are not creating ART but CREATING art. Your work and worth is not on a canvas. It's not the art. It's in you, the artist.

@indianjones

May 11, 2024

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Intervene, ignorantly

A model friend/client and I stepped out from dinner for a smoke and were having a tipsy discussion about an issue with her company. Some doorman came up to tell us to move because we were blocking the entrance, which we weren't. I was irked, but my friend guessed he likely stereotyped her being in a lover's quarrel. Irked for a different reason, I called out, "Dude, we're discussing business! She's my boss!" In hindsight, I appreciated how he handled what he mistook as a domestic dispute by creating a false diversion to redirect our attention. Most people get involved in others' drama because they think they know better. Most people don't because they're insecure they're misunderstanding. He was appropriately in between.

@indianjones

Jun 5, 2024