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Pt 2 of my Richard Jenkins Double Feature
One of the most accurate depictions of a Thanksgiving dinner with family. I love movies based on plays or scripted to be like plays with plenty of engaging dialogue.
Nov 29, 2024
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Pt 1 of my Richard Jenkins Double Feature
A surreal film about a family of scammers whose lives get turned upside down when they welcome someone new into their lives.
I can see this movie being too odd for many people but I found it to be a really beautiful story about affection and neglect.
Nov 29, 2024
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My favorite of the handful of movies I watched this week. No frills, no effects, not 2+ hours longājust a very human story told exceptionally well. Stunning, heartbreaking. This is ACTING!
Nov 10, 2024
A dramedy about a young gay man who comes back to his hometown of help care for his mom after sheās diagnosed with cancer.
Starring Jesse Plemons and Molly Shannon with supporting performances by John Early, Maude Apatow, and Bradley Whitford.
Iām always drawn to movies about dysfunctional families and this one ranks in the Top 3.
Jan 13, 2025
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Iām not a parent and do not plan to be. Kids can wear me out fast with their high energy and noise level; it leaves me very over-stimulated. But itās pretty extreme when people say they āhate kidsā and I often feel itās a reflection of their childhood and beliefs around how kids āshould be.ā That they were expected to be quiet, obedient, and out of the way by their parents when they were little.
Itās fucking hard to be a kid. Youāre dealing with a rapidly-changing body and underdeveloped brain, managed by flawed adults who are enforcing boundaries that you do not understand. Itās confusing and hard to manage your feelings and honestly just a lot.
People are impatient with kids when theyāre brand new to the world and figuring it all out, and this is a time kids need a friend the most. Children can also be teachers to adults with how they are less habituated to the world. They teach us how to be free and open-hearted and silly and imaginative.
A good practice is to be kinder and gentler with kids. If that feels difficult, start with gentleness toward your inner child. Maybe thatās the child in your life that needs your attention and kindness most.
Apr 16, 2025
I meant to post this yesterday. Absolutely beautiful morning for walk.
This morning is also beautiful but in a spring rain kind of way.
Mar 23, 2025
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Prescriptive gender is a prison. Rather than gender being a form of self-expression, gender is treated as a pass/fail test for how well you can conform to cultural expectations.
Since I was young, I remember feeling a great deal of pressure to conform to these expectations around what āmenā are meant to be. You like sports, cars, womanizing, aggression, and not having feelings. I felt so distant from this ideal. I was sensitive and shy, and I preferred spending my time being creative in some way
For a long time, I felt like I was failing at ābeing a man.ā In many ways I was! Because I didnāt need toĀ bea man. All I needed to be was myself.
Itās taken me a long time to separate myself from prescriptive gender, sharpening in on which aspects of masculine energy I identify with and which I donāt. Iām not done yet. Maybe I will never fully be. The self continues to evolve over time, and I suspect aspects of my gender will too.
Mar 15, 2025