May 6, 2025
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May 10, 2025
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Jan 26, 2024
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some people are just night people and are wired that way. i’m one of them. i find the best motivator to get my ass out of bed is my morning coffee. i started topping with whip (only 1 gram of sugar per serving!) and that little treat is often the best part of my day. doing something pleasurable first thing in the morning works for me when guilt and bargaining don’t.
Jun 13, 2024
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I’m not a parent and do not plan to be. Kids can wear me out fast with their high energy and noise level; it leaves me very over-stimulated. But it’s pretty extreme when people say they ”hate kids” and I often feel it’s a reflection of their childhood and beliefs around how kids “should be.” That they were expected to be quiet, obedient, and out of the way by their parents when they were little.
It’s fucking hard to be a kid. You’re dealing with a rapidly-changing body and underdeveloped brain, managed by flawed adults who are enforcing boundaries that you do not understand. It’s confusing and hard to manage your feelings and honestly just a lot.
People are impatient with kids when they‘re brand new to the world and figuring it all out, and this is a time kids need a friend the most. Children can also be teachers to adults with how they are less habituated to the world. They teach us how to be free and open-hearted and silly and imaginative.
A good practice is to be kinder and gentler with kids. If that feels difficult, start with gentleness toward your inner child. Maybe that’s the child in your life that needs your attention and kindness most.
Apr 16, 2025
I meant to post this yesterday. Absolutely beautiful morning for walk.
This morning is also beautiful but in a spring rain kind of way.
Mar 23, 2025
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You have one life to live and it goes by quickly. Don’t spend it trying to make your parents comfortable with the things that fulfill you. They’ve lived different lives, in a different time, and they are not you.
I get it can be difficult to resist at times. The choice to not have kids was one of those for me, knowing I’m an only child and my mom wanted to be a grandma very badly. I still haven’t told her I got a vasectomy after the fall of Roe, and I probably won’t — since it’s my body and not hers.
Just remember that this is your life, not theirs. Happiness is a precious thing, even in the best of circumstances, so don’t cheat yourself out of a single moment’s happiness just because you’re not sure your parents would approve or make the same choices.
Jun 5, 2025