one of the biggest shocks about growing up was discovering that motherfuckers cannot read minds. I am still shaken up about this.
but what mf can do is learn about you. Communication can and does go beyond just the verbal corrections. It can be body language, the tightness of shoulders or sudden lack of eye contact. its tricky tho, to just go from physical cues alone. a picture paints a thousand words is not actually true, unless the artist explains their point.
For me, when I’m triggered and tensed up — my body is painting the picture of rejection for the other. They might think im angry, or that they did something wrong. But the words i need to hear are ‘you’re safe, of course you feel that way’ instead of ‘what‘s wrong with you’
for me, ive communicated that I like when others pry a bit for my emotions. I’m such an explosion of colours, the observer needs to decipher the blues in a way that makes me feel they care. Which is by asking. I’m not asking them to know what the hell im painting, the brush strokes of my experience, but it goes a long way to talk about it. Even if it just means leaning into the observer and saying ‘could you please get me some water… I’m running dry… ‘
Dec 7, 2024
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Now hear me out, we are all different individuals, which is a very good thing, keeping us all unique from each others, now read that again.
That's the "issue", since we are all unique in our own ways, it means we all had different circumstances which make us think in different ways, so communicate your thoughts very clearly in order to be understood.
Easy as that, there is no magic trick to it or anything, of course we should pick our words carefully to not hurt people or be too harsh on them.
Nevertheless, that's only 50% of the communication, because if the second part doesn't want to understand then you can't do much about it, yes i said doesn't want to understand, because if the communication is clear there is no way they "can't" understand it.
Jan 11, 2025
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i wish people were better at this. big sign of emotional maturity i think is when people are actually capable of this. things happen and if you can’t talk them through what are you meant to do? just let it stew so it gets worse? let it destroy a relationship for no reason? fuck all that. have the conversations so you can reach an understanding. we can’t read eachothers minds man
Jun 10, 2024
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it took me a while to realize this but, communicating doesn’t mean sharing every thought you have and every feeling going through you.
its often best to take some time to assess how you feel, come to a conclusion that you’re confident in, and then share that with whoever you’re conversing with. especially if they play a significant role in your life.
i used to think that by making my internal dialogue and thought process totally transparent, i was just being super communicative - while that might technically be true, sometimes some of our passing thoughts on our way to a final conclusion about how we feel about something might actually be hurtful to the other person if vocalized!!
idk i just felt like sharing this ok 👍🏻
May 29, 2024
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Bring back being genuine about your suffering on the internet. was that ever really a thing? is tumblr just a social anecdote to a form of media we thought / wished we had?
*^ little miss avoidant. or maybe indirect? dw folks it was amicable! he has a heart of gold! which makes me even more miserable…
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