The human tendencies and psyche seems to change/ alter significantly post cancer diagnosis. As an onco-counselor, after working for almost a year with such patients, I've found astonishing & polarizing responses from different patients. It truly has made me question the willpower of humans in general.
Dec 29, 2024
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It seems like it’s become such a cultural norm at this point, especially amongst my generation, to tout the benefits of therapy. “They need to go to therapy”
“I‘m going to therapy”
“Go to therapy”
While I’m a strong proponent of destigmatizing mental illness and getting the help we need, there’s been questions on this topic I’ve been mulling over the past couple weeks:
How do therapists know when a client is just telling their skewed side of the story? What if they have a client who is manipulative and always paints themselves as the victim? How does a therapist see through that? And if they don’t, then wouldn’t that be enabling unhealthy behavioral patterns?
I’m reminded of a story from my childhood, when my brother went to therapy and my mom had to be there with him for some reason, and she would end up dominating the conversation with the therapist and painting herself as the victim and he would leave the session defeated. Every time he would recount these stories to me, I would think to myself, why did the therapist not facilitate this better?
I guess we all talk about going to therapy, but no one talks about what makes a good therapist, about how to find a competent therapist that fits your needs, and about being radically honest with yourself about the kind of help you really need.
Anyway - if anyone reading this is a therapist or mental health professional who can answer my questions above, I would greatly appreciate it🎀
Feb 14, 2024
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I have an ACE score of 8 😝 I’m always going to be different in some ways but after years of work in EMDR therapy/meditation/yoga and with support from loved ones it mostly feels like a bad dream and I’m pretty stable and happy. I do believe that for many people adversity builds strength and I like to be there for others 🫶
Jul 18, 2024
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This is a sort of a cult I was born into but still believe in. Psychoanalysis isn’t therapy and finding a good psychoanalyst is as hard as finding a good artist. Most of you who think you’ve gone to therapy have never been to Psychoanalysis. Analysis was fashionable, then it wasn’t, then it was... now my feeling is it’s no longer fashionable. No matter, it’s an advantage to have dipped your toes into the psychoanalytic waters. I don’t think it makes you “annoying” or “bad at art, or whatever" that’s a cope employed by people who are resistant to productive regression on the grand ole couch.
May 31, 2022
