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I work with my ex best friend, one that was the closest and most gut wrenching friendship breakup Iāve ever had.
I have to often be in close proximity to her and I find it hard to believe sheās so lackadaisical about how close we used to be. I donāt know how she does it.
She invited me to take a yoga class with her.
Jan 13, 2025
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my high school/early college gf is one of my best friends and will be forever. we had a wonderful friendship before we dated and after taking some time of no contact built back an even stronger platonic bond. especially since we were close during such formative years itās been so rewarding to grow together - out of one form of connection and into so many othersā£ļø
my other serious ex I may never speak to again before I die.
Mar 12, 2024
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This piece really spoke to me, and as recently as 2 weeks ago. My bestie (other friends) and I are just in very different phases of life. She had been busy raising a family and I had far more time on my hands. I had understood, of cos. But still I resented that I had 'lost' a cherished long time friend, I knew in my head, that it's entirely legit that she is busy. And she had felt she had nothing to contribute to our friendship since her stories are all about babies and kids. But after looking around for substitutes and other activities - actually found no one/anything that has any semblance of what we had. So I decided to just call her and just made that reconnection again. I had accepted that 10 mins of her time daily far outweighs 10 hours of someone I don't connect with or have no fond history with.
This doesn't just apply to friendships I realise. Because building and maintaining relationships takes actual work. I mean you both have to want to. And you have to have tradeoffs. You can't be rigid, and you can't get all your needs met... But what I learned, is this agreement to still call and leave messages, text back and forth. We had to try different modes and different ways. Previously I also got really upset when I finally got hold of the person, and start off with angry accusations. This too didn't work, because he would get pissed because I was pissed. We still don't have it pat-down (friends/relationships) but my changed perspective did help, especially for me.
https://www.wsj.com/lifestyle/relationships/friendship-maintaining-healthy-relationships-text-calls-memes-5e66e221?st=2jl247gjqb814wr&reflink=desktopwebshare_permalink&utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email
Apr 10, 2024
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Speaking to a friendship aspect: finding my people was initially exhilarating. Being seen and accepted, feeling joyful and excited to spend time together, feeling like a team in the world rather than competitors are all things my first experiences with my best friends felt like. But there were also points where we pissed each other off or hurt each other or grew apart. what set apart these Friendships was being able to talk about it and wanting to be open about our hurt or anger. We reciprocally put in work to stay connected. I could trust my friends would listen to me and try to do better. i could Also trust that I would be forgiven when I needed to do better. To this day, they are the most transformative relationships Iāve had in adulthood and Iām always so grateful for them.
Feb 18, 2025
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I sort of imagine a life with someone only after thinking about them a couple times. right now I have about four crushes, but I think itās my want of a relationship, so so bad.
Equally I do not admit feelings for people. I would rather encourage someone to get in a relationship with someone else than admit my feelings, itās like tending to an overgrown garden.
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I used to have a ālittlest pet shopā YouTube channel and was curious about others relationship with toys. I still collect toys because I donāt think being an adult means you need to stop.
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Todays photo is an hour late, and I realize that Iām counting on nobody but myself to keep myself accountable. I feel like Iāve wronged myself, but growth only halts if you donāt let yourself breathe.
Anywho, hereās this ray of sun. Iāve been having trouble fixing my sleep schedule, if anyoneās ever heard of revenge bedtime procrastination, I think I fall victim (or rather punish myself) to it. Any tips on how to overcome it? Somehow I convince myself itās better to stay up..
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