lol yes. But im nervous too soooo
Best method for me whenever I ran out of topics is to pick a random thing (could be an object, a person, an event) at the place where we meet to ask related questions or pick a thing that they mentioned and run with it. It would go like this:
"this pasta is great"
"whats your fav shapes of pasta?''
"my fav shape is ___ because it is chewy''
"to what extent is a pasta is too chewy for you?"
"skbveljasnskdvn"
"wow so you like chewy pasta. would a pasta-flavored chewing gum sound good to you?"
and scene. I too am anxious conversing on a date. Have lots of fun on your date tho!! Be you <333
Jan 23, 2025
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Underrated conversation starter. I had an amazing conversation about this with someone yesterday. We learned a lot about each other and even got to talk about favourite fruits and artificial flavourings (i.e.: I love peach-flavoured stuff, she’s a citrus girlie).
Also BONUS: you get to memorize people’s little treats and surprise them with yummy things sometimes 😋🫶🏼💕🥳
Apr 3, 2024
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Look at them and notice something that they actively chose today. Easy ones are like clothes, bags, jewlery, makeup or whatever. But you’d probably have even better luck with like if they’re holding a shopping bag or a book or a cup of coffee or the keychain on their keys. idk those are just the examples I thought of. But basically that’s something intentional, so that’s something they will have thoughts/feelings/opinions on. Ask a question or make a comment that requires them to reveal that. Like a question you would want someone in your life to ask you about something that you put energy towards, yk? Like for me I always want to talk to people about books I’ve read or that theyve read. Or when Im holding a food or drink I probably could talk about why I wanted that.
But the most important part dude. Is to gauge reaction after that. If they wanna talk more then yay. If not, you gotta let it go don’t push. It’s a them thing, not a you thing.
Sep 10, 2024
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The “we’re not really strangers” cards or some similar ice breaker question style situation is a great thing to fall back on if you’re feeling worried about running out of ideas/topics! Besides that I will think of an activity to do (like “we both cook dinner” or “we both chat while cleaning” or “stitch and bitch”) helps ease some of the intensity. I even have a friend to whom I send a “checkin” Google doc and then we FaceTime to debrief the updates on it. Other people we go full yap and others still we just coexist.
It’s all nice because the point is being in one another’s presence. Theres no rules which is fun but if that’s what’s making you stressed you can always just tell the other person that and maybe they have something in mind!
Mar 18, 2025
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im thankful for baking soda. washed my dirty socks with baking soda today. cleaned the microwave with baking soda today. deodorized my stinky (sorry Metal mom loves you) cat's litter box with baking soda today. tenderized my chicken with baking soda today.
so cool. might adopt another cat and name it Baking Soda.
Jan 22, 2025
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Someone recommended that whenever you go on a walk with friends/anyone, choose a color and then take turns finding objects of that color. SO fun. Even more fun when you restrict it to a specific shade. The topics that the objects introduce to you are countless. A great way to get to know someone too.
Jan 23, 2025
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thats like 4-5 oranges a day, not bad imo no?
(even tho i have to take 2 melatonin gummies instead of 1) (cause i ate oranges at night when i crave sugar) (i probably have sugar addiction) (wait am i addicted to cortisol) (no!) (maybe)
Apr 17, 2024