The âweâre not really strangersâ cards or some similar ice breaker question style situation is a great thing to fall back on if youâre feeling worried about running out of ideas/topics! Besides that I will think of an activity to do (like âwe both cook dinnerâ or âwe both chat while cleaningâ or âstitch and bitchâ) helps ease some of the intensity. I even have a friend to whom I send a âcheckinâ Google doc and then we FaceTime to debrief the updates on it. Other people we go full yap and others still we just coexist.
Itâs all nice because the point is being in one anotherâs presence. Theres no rules which is fun but if thatâs whatâs making you stressed you can always just tell the other person that and maybe they have something in mind!
Mar 18, 2025
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sometimes if i need to sort some things out iâll talk to myself in the mirror and pretend a smart friend of mine or general cool person who can read my mind is probing me with questions. othertimes iâll just completely nathan fielder and map out social encounters and try out different conversations to see which ones go best. or maybe i just see what punchlines i can get out of my recent days so i can later âcasually and spontaneouslyâ say them. wtv way is most helpful to you spending time with yourself is good đ
Feb 25, 2024
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this might not all apply to you, but sometimes if I overthink social interactions in general, I end up missing out on what could have been a really good conversation. I usually like to ask myself what Iâm genuinely curious about/want to know about a specific person and let my questions lead into a more fruitful discussion. worst case scenario is that donât take the bait and then the conversation ends, but most of the time I find people like talking about themselves, which can lead to something yâall have in common.
I also donât put pressure on myself to âmake a friendâ after one interaction. some people require crumbs of interactions before they start to let you in!
Mar 27, 2024
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lol yes. But im nervous too soooo
Best method for me whenever I ran out of topics is to pick a random thing (could be an object, a person, an event) at the place where we meet to ask related questions or pick a thing that they mentioned and run with it. It would go like this:
"this pasta is great"
"whats your fav shapes of pasta?''
"my fav shape is ___ because it is chewy''
"to what extent is a pasta is too chewy for you?"
"skbveljasnskdvn"
"wow so you like chewy pasta. would a pasta-flavored chewing gum sound good to you?"
and scene. I too am anxious conversing on a date. Have lots of fun on your date tho!! Be you <333
Jan 23, 2025
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I was going through the Ignatian approach to education today (adapted from the Spiritual Exercises for those keeping track at home) and this tenet is just so good.
St. Ignatius says that a person, âought to be more eager to put a good interpretation on a neighborâs statement than to condemn it.Further, if one cannot interpret it favorably, one should ask how the other means it. If the meaning is wrong, one should correct the person with love; if this is not enough, one should search out every appropriate means through which, by understanding the statement in a good way, it may be saved.â
This is very Hanlonâs razor (never attribute to malice what you can attribute to stupidity/ignorance) and I just feel like having a curious posture like this is a major slay and makes us better people
Mar 7, 2024
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I gotta know what happens!!!
Feb 10, 2025
Like look at this shit. Just kinda sick tbh. The Eastern church invented maximalism which is just very slay for them (even if you aren't into God or whatever I feel like you can enjoy old buildings with tons of art everywhere)
Feb 2, 2024