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self-doubt

The first one that came to mind: Growing up, I never really got any props or gold stars for the stuff I did. You know that whole "I'm proud of you" thing? Yeah, never heard it. And now it's like I've got this annoying voice in my head always whispering "you're not good enough." I mean, I've got a decent job, make good money, but there's always this feeling like I don't deserve any of it. Like I'm some kind of impostor and any day now everyone's gonna figure out there are way better people who could do my job. It's exhausting, honestly. And don't even get me started on compliments. When someone says something nice, I just freeze up. No clue how to react. It's like my brain short-circuits or something.

@nebraska

Jul 18, 2024

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class rage and loneliness

I got no idea how to even begin describe my resentment (and guilt because of said resentment) towards my friends who have it better than me. I once had to sleep with no heater (on winter!) because I was afraid that I wouldn’t be able to pay the bills. Another time, I literally passed out because I didn’t have any meals for 24 hours. I had work, then class, then more work that I just forgot to eat. I’m in infinitely better place now - I could send my Mom money and I have an average savings on my account. I also maintain friendships, many of whom with people that come from better families than me. i promise you im not always so resentful. But today, when a friend of mine posted a random compliment a stranger gave (“you really have it all! A career, a startup of your own, and youre good at sports and so hot!“) and I just couldn’t shake the ugly green monster inside of me. He was born from a wealthy family — with more than two businesses and expanding, he is athletic because his family could afford all the extra classes and he has been sheltered from all the financial stress and family stress that he was able to study well, got into good university, and the rest is history. I feel so so awful for feeling this way. He has never been mean to me and i know for sure he is humble enough to not rub that off in front of his friends (incl me) but i just cant shake this ugly feeling. A, i’m so sorry but i think i will stop coming to badminton games for awhile now. i’m so envious of you :(

@missbean24

Jan 1, 2025

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Awareness of acute self criticism and remembering other ppl do this too

Something that helps me a lot is reminding myself that we all tend to evaluate our own actions under a microscopic lens, observing problems that others would never pick up on because they’re not looking at us that closely. We tend to be much more critical of our own actions than those of others. And everyone does it! So reminding myself of this fact helps prevent me from spiraling. ALSO: It can be very helpful to bring up a concern about something you did or said to a friend who was present at the time. 9/10 times they will tell you they hardly noticed it (if at all) and that it did not come off the way you feared. True friends will always accept you as you are and, as much as your anxiety brain would have you think otherwise, do not secretly hate you or think you’re lame!

@beangirl94

Feb 4, 2025

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tiffany lamps

big fan of wtv this is ps this is not my own tiffany lamp i just long for one and im so grateful they exist 😛

@evanoel

Feb 12, 2025

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hot take on love

this is an incredibly unoriginal take, i know, but sometimes it’s nice to just have someone to hold and be held. to have a person. solitude is nice, but i’m experiencing the fleeting yet grounding feeling for the first time in my life that i am utterly helpless in the arms of another. it is not obsession in the traditional sense. it is not settling for what you can get. it’s a feeling that i couldn’t possibly articulate. it’s the visceral and raw pulling in my chest at the thought of my person. i don’t know exactly what this feeling is but it’s the loveliest and most nauseating notion i have ever had.

@evanoel

Feb 19, 2025

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reflections on sex and the city

Currently in season 3 of Sex and the City and can someone please explain to me why these girls keep leaving each other at random events in New York City??? i started to wonder …. 3 of them at the club will get bored and leave one of them behind with some random MAN??? this is how i know the show was not in fact written by women. under no circumstances do best friends leave each other in crowded parties with only one stranger to suffice. do better guys 😒

@evanoel

Feb 18, 2025