I don't want to be negative, honestly, but it's really hard to find someone who is willing to show their feelings for you. Today's dating feels like a competition: whoever shows feelings first loses, and everything falls apart.
I was in a relationship recently, and as a person who's not afraid to show emotions, I ended up spooking this guy away by showing him how much I truly cared about him. That experience not only taught me that dating apps and networking for relationships suck, but it also showed me that there’s something I need to change within myself. There’s something lacking that’s not attracting the "ideal person."
So, my advice is to first check in with yourself and ask, "Am I the person I would like to date?" Once you let that sink in, you can focus better on the type of person you would like or someone who fits within your possibilities.
It’s all about being real with yourself. If you cannot “afford” your ideal person emotionally, mentally, or otherwise, take some time off to work on yourself. I understand how the heart YEAAAARRRNS for a little smooch now and then—especially one filled with love. But we can't expect to find happiness in a relationship if we aren't the kind of person we would want to date.
I hope everyone who reads this finds their "ideal" person by February 14th. <3
