Recs and messages in Convos will “send” and then disappear. So Ill have thought I’ve shared multiple messages and then they’ll all just disappear. Eek!
Feb 11, 2025
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i'm having troubles sending and receiving personal messages from users, as different convos are turnining into a single one, and other users can read my former chats ;(
Jan 28, 2025
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opened up a dm with one of my mutuals to discover there were, like, six messages that they had apparently sent me over the course of what seems like several months (though the messages themselves aren't timestamped so it's hard to know) but i never received any kind of notification and also our conversation isn't listed in the "CONVOS" panel either. not sure what to make of this
Sep 30, 2024
But I had this very strange occurrence happen recently where the top of the thread showed an older message I had received from one person, I attempted to send a message to another person that may or may not have been delivered, and then a third person saw both of those messages when they sent a message to me lmao
Sep 19, 2024
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I’m not a parent and do not plan to be. Kids can wear me out fast with their high energy and noise level; it leaves me very over-stimulated. But it’s pretty extreme when people say they ”hate kids” and I often feel it’s a reflection of their childhood and beliefs around how kids “should be.” That they were expected to be quiet, obedient, and out of the way by their parents when they were little.
It’s fucking hard to be a kid. You’re dealing with a rapidly-changing body and underdeveloped brain, managed by flawed adults who are enforcing boundaries that you do not understand. It’s confusing and hard to manage your feelings and honestly just a lot.
People are impatient with kids when they‘re brand new to the world and figuring it all out, and this is a time kids need a friend the most. Children can also be teachers to adults with how they are less habituated to the world. They teach us how to be free and open-hearted and silly and imaginative.
A good practice is to be kinder and gentler with kids. If that feels difficult, start with gentleness toward your inner child. Maybe that’s the child in your life that needs your attention and kindness most.
Apr 16, 2025
I meant to post this yesterday. Absolutely beautiful morning for walk.
This morning is also beautiful but in a spring rain kind of way.
Mar 23, 2025
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Prescriptive gender is a prison. Rather than gender being a form of self-expression, gender is treated as a pass/fail test for how well you can conform to cultural expectations.
Since I was young, I remember feeling a great deal of pressure to conform to these expectations around what “men” are meant to be. You like sports, cars, womanizing, aggression, and not having feelings. I felt so distant from this ideal. I was sensitive and shy, and I preferred spending my time being creative in some way
For a long time, I felt like I was failing at “being a man.” In many ways I was! Because I didn’t need to bea man. All I needed to be was myself.
It’s taken me a long time to separate myself from prescriptive gender, sharpening in on which aspects of masculine energy I identify with and which I don’t. I’m not done yet. Maybe I will never fully be. The self continues to evolve over time, and I suspect aspects of my gender will too.
Mar 15, 2025