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case by case

had times where me and the other person weren’t really in each other’s lives before dating so there wasn’t an existing shared community or anything to keep us in proximity to each other. kinda just follow those folks lightly on socials now but don’t really keep in touch. net zero not the worst. had one time where the romantic relationship really didn’t work out, just lack of compatibility and not being what the other person needed, but the emotional connection and proximity/availability kept us both coming back to each other to maintain the relationship platonically. kind of resulted in a messy situation where boundaries were unclear and that just lead to more hurt and confusion than had we dealt with being apart and feeling alone in the moment and then come back together as friends after letting time pass. ultimately ended up cutting that person out of my life entirely after moving away and realizing in retrospect that I had allowed this person to violate a lot of my personal boundaries for the sake of feeling like I had someone I could confide in, and that they were taking advantage of me being a pushover to feel wanted/not alone. all this to say, ask yourself: what is it that this person brings to your life outside of what comes exclusively from the romantic aspect of the relationship? if this person was simply available to you to spend time together, seek company from existing friends, or find a new community to be a part of. if this person was a close confidant and understood you in a way you felt seen by, maybe practice more vulnerability with your current friends/family/whoever and ask yourself what it is that makes you feel seen/appreciated in those relationships? seek that out! in the immediate aftermath of a breakup, it’s going to seem like there is no one else that can take the space that person is leaving. but that doesn’t have to be the case, and investing in the non-romantic relationships you already have can address the valid needs that you have and strengthen your existing connections. romantic love is important, but other forms of love are just as fulfilling and crucial to your thriving! maybe with time you will come to notice that this person had something you value nonromantically and hopefully y’all can find a new place for each other in your lives, and that can be very rewarding! or maybe you will realize this person met certain unaddressed needs in the moment that you can find in other relationships. don’t feel the need to keep em around if that’s the case.

@royallmonarch

Mar 12, 2024

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not having a s/o isn’t alone

Friends, family, and community. We get trapped in this idea that only a romantic partner can truly know you and free us from loneliness. That’s a lie. We must practice contentment in solitude and celebrate our familial and platonic relationships. These are not cheap substitutes for romance. They are vital.

@lucius

Feb 26, 2024

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Having Friends

I used to see myself as someone with very few friends and even made a little fetish out of the idea of being “a lonely guy.”  That may or may not have ever even been true. It’s likely I always had friends but romanticized the idea of not having them. Now, I see myself as someone with friends and while it can be overwhelming in moments, it’s preferable to loneliness or romanticizing loneliness. Having friends/community is also healthier I am told than being alone. So, make friends, enjoy them, cherish them.

@peter-vack

May 31, 2022

Top Recs from @MaeveEatsPearls

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Eat off cutting boards

Yes a whole pizza

@MaeveEatsPearls

Mar 5, 2025

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SUCCESSFULLY SCHEDULED A DOCS APPOINTMENT

I will hopefully be medicated soon

@MaeveEatsPearls

Apr 8, 2025

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Small confession

I think little bruises are pretty they remind me that im a person. I work with dogs and having them jump up on me I get little bruises all over my legs. I honestly think that give me a little touch of personality. (not condoning violence obviously)

@MaeveEatsPearls

Jan 27, 2025