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why have we normalised not being obsessed with your partner
‘alpha males’ can go fall off a cliff. like, excuse me? i only want you if you’re OBSESSED with me??? tf out of here with your nonchalance?????? i want you to not be able to breath, eat, or SLEEP because im the only thing occupying your mind??? why would i want a you to play hard to get?? if you’re not giving gomez addams energy then why are you here? i want my name to be your last breath and i want my smile to be the light you crave when you’re alone in the dark. don’t tell me about the other girls that want you because idgaf. alpha male philosophy is the dumbest shit i’ve ever heard of—your partner should be your best friend until the end, not your maid or your child incubator
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@jilly
Feb 17, 2025
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@afi
non chalance really the death of life because what tf is non chalant ab living u fooli
Feb 17, 2025
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@retro_Nova
Unfortunately, these are the "men" (ratting spoiled brats) we are left with in today´s society little spoiled children who only will do as a least as possible for you not to leave him -and, in some cases, not even the least-, bratty children who will see what value you can add to his life instead of evaluating if HE is even worth being in yours, girls, your standars are not high, save yourself the heartbreak
Feb 17, 2025
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@wakeuplmd
Gomez Addams got REAL swagger
Feb 17, 2025
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@wallybaby
It can be uncomfortable to share a flex with my full chest but i'm in one of those relationships where my husband is obsessed with me. We'd known each other for a while as acquaintances before we started dating, and he had a little crush on me. The night that things really kicked off with us and we had our first date planned, he went onto his hinge and told all his matches he met someone and wished them the best (he's so wholesome) and never made me wonder, in the 5.5 years since then, where he stands and if he's all in. The key to this type of love is seeking a relationship where you both REALLY LIKE each other. We're obsessed with each other because we genuinely think the other is fuckin awesome, we respect each other as fully formed human beings, and we embrace each other's quirks and flaws. Obsession-love comes from liking the hell out of someone so much that you want them to know it and feel it and feel secure in it at all times.
Feb 17, 2025
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@jilly
wallybaby i’m also in a relationship with a gomez addams and it’s the best, all the other guys i have dated have been on the ‘alpha male‘ mindset. (my bf is so sweet) but the videos floating around the internet triggered my rant lol your man sounds so wholesome i can’t 😭
Feb 17, 2025
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@wallybaby
jilly i think these discussions are so important!!!! at least the guys who are all ✨aLpHa✨ are really showing themselves which makes them easier to avoid LOL
Feb 17, 2025
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@choc_orange
lovers don’t obsess like they once did 😔🤞
Feb 17, 2025
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