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Youād think it would be somewhere prominent and fancy, but in reality, their gravesite is at a small cemetery off of a normal street and little church in Rockville, MD. The gravestone is carved with a quote from āThe Great Gatsbyāā So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past. And people leave daisies and booze when they visit.
I popped by their grave with a friend last fall, after attending an artist talk and grabbing soup dumplings for lunch. Paying your respects on a quiet afternoon can be simple and spontaneous. Makes me want to find more greats in Chicago to leave stones and mementos at.
Mar 21, 2025
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I have family buried here from generations ago. My grandmother told me that before she got sick. I thought she was lying. One day I came across my uncommon name (with an even more uncommon spelling) on a sequence of graves, and it turns out that she was right. Even though our family has scattered in the generations since, this is one place I can return to feel close to my bloodline, to feel like I am in the right place.
Itās a beautiful cemetery & itās nice to come home to where our experiment (unsuccessful as it sometimes feels) in being happy began.
Mar 19, 2025
i went here today to pay my respects to natalie wood, but i ran into lots of heroes + wonderful people along the way. the only person i couldnāt find was frank zappa, but apparently heās there too
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Especially the one(s) in your home town! History lives through us. Love each other and fight for a better world!
Taken when I was in Paris.
Mar 15, 2025
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iāve been trying to articulate why i enjoy this space so much. yes, the UX is reminiscent of Tumblr and the early days of the internet. and thereās genuine sincerity and vulnerability on here that makes it feel really cozy and real, which i havenāt felt online in at least a decade.
but i think whatās undergirding my love of this space is how anti-capitalist it feels. most of the recs everyone shares are vibe-checks, quality of life shifts, meditations and offers, music and movies, just plain good art. i donāt feel compelled to buy anything when i come here. i feel excited and pumped to be a cheerleader, find connection, find common ground. and FWIW the recs iāve shared that have gotten the most traction are my suggestions for leading a less capitalistic / consumerist life (quitting Amazon, getting off of Spotify, building community to take care of you and your things).
all of this is to say, i love it here and i love you guys.
Feb 7, 2025
i canceled my Spotify account over the summer and have spent the last few months rebuilding my digital music library on a refurbished iPod Touch. reading critiques of the app (and itās enshittification), i realized i wasnāt even sure of my own musical tastes and preferences. i had stopped picking for myself, stopped seeking out new music, ceasing to know how to choose what i wanted or articulate what i like.
breaking free from the algorithm has been such a joy! iām borrowing gobs of music from the library, rebuilding my old playlists, and consuming more music than i have in years. and better yet, my data isnāt being tracked by Spotify and i own whatās in my personal library. further, my receptors are more open when iām out in the world exposed to music, searching for recommendations in an organic way.
Jan 16, 2025
hear me outāthis one might feel impossible, but i quit purchasing items on Amazon in 2018 and cancelled my GoodReads account shortly after.
i did some serious reflection and realized iād become super reliant upon, and frankly, quite used to the instant gratification of purchasing something and knowing iād have it within a day. thatās not normal. the labor practices, economics, and environmental impacts of getting what you want from the internet delivered quickly and right to your door are skewed. i was filling a void in myself with mindless purchases.
iām aware that they service a huge swath of the internet (Amazon Web Services), own Whole Foods and Abe Books, and will likely take over more businesses we like and rely on. weaning off and avoiding entirely is very very hard, but it can also be a measured decision. that said, i know that it is a privilege to abstain from Amazon. i am able bodied, i donāt have kids, i have access to a car, i live in an urban environment with access to a lot of stuff at my fingertips. but making the choice to break out of the Amazon loop has ultimately been better for my pocketbook and better for my relationship to these mega-tech-companies that have their fingers in everything.
in contrast, iām becoming more interested in alternate economies, like bartering and sharing. i love the idea of having commonly shared tools and items (tool libraries are very cool). we donāt need to own it all, we have each other.
interested in exploring more? the zine pictured below is a great start, and summarizes a much larger book by the same author on how to resist the leviathan that is Amazon.
Jan 22, 2025