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When I was in my 20s and Single Iād go on a Tinder date every Friday, no exceptions. Didnāt matter how long we were talking on the app, or even if I wasnāt 100% sure they were the same vibe as me, as long as they were willing to meet as well. Very trial and error approach to dating and I came out of it with a lot of funny stories and got to know myself better.
Mar 24, 2025
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š¤·Dating apps are the easiest way to meet people nowadays.
I have had some of the worst experiences ever in my life by meeting up with someone on a dating app, but also my current partner and I met on tinder and we have been together for a year and a half now.
What Iāve learned is be completely transparent with your intentions, learn to spot the red flags that someone is lying about their intentions, and be comfortable with something not working out even if there was some chemistry over text.
If you have brought it up with your therapist multiple times, it sounds like you need to just pull the trigger, and figure out definitively if it is for you. You can get 100,000 responses saying āgo for it!ā but only you know what actually works for you.
Feb 26, 2025
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š¹went on tinder for a couple of days
and learnt how the dating culture is insane.
like a mating ritual was thrust upon meā
it all felt very weird to me.
firstly, putting yourself out there, like a product with a description for any consumer to swipe right on, felt objectifyingāno humanity. felt used in this capitalist society.
then there was some interaction, got liked by guys. experienced no attraction. but matched with only two menā very uninteresting, both of themā¦
so I crashed out, swiped till no end, checking, worrying if I got matched. but I realised this isnāt who I am, and sat lonely in bed with regret.
just wanted to make some emotional connection, maybe find someone to spend time with, only to learn the hard truth: in todayās society, tinder is no use.
feeling rather silly, because I used Tinder for a couple of days, but got violated to my core, and decided this isnāt what Iām made for.
iād rather meet someone in uni, or in a bar or a club, where Iām not a list of hobbies and interests, where Iām just a person looking for love.
firstly, putting yourself out there, like a product with a description for any consumer to swipe right on, felt objectifyingāno humanity. felt used in this capitalist society.
then there was some interaction, got liked by guys. experienced no attraction. but matched with only two menā very uninteresting, both of themā¦
so I crashed out, swiped till no end, checking, worrying if I got matched. but I realised this isnāt who I am, and sat lonely in bed with regret.
just wanted to make some emotional connection, maybe find someone to spend time with, only to learn the hard truth: in todayās society, tinder is no use.
feeling rather silly, because I used Tinder for a couple of days, but got violated to my core, and decided this isnāt what Iām made for.
iād rather meet someone in uni, or in a bar or a club, where Iām not a list of hobbies and interests, where Iām just a person looking for love.
Apr 30, 2025
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Met the love of my life on Tindr and while I cannot in good conscience recommend Tindr, I had good results. I just wish more people had the "relationship" mentality and not the "situationship" mentality.
Feb 27, 2025
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Mar 23, 2025
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First one is ChloĆ© eau de parfum: This is how I wish my girlhood smelled like: innocent and naive and angelic and knows no malice.Ā Ā a world before being interested in being perceived by men, just carefree and sweet and soft. a young rose, gentle, powdery and almost rose-watery. dries down with a bit of honey suckle.Ā
This scent brings me back to my frequent trips to a gift store near my house when i was 13, which had spools over spools of gift ribbons. Iād rotate the carousel rack with scientific precision, hypnotised by the shades of pastel pinks. I didnāt grow up going to museums, but what those pastel pinks did to me is probably why people go to museums for an emotional experience. i grew my ribbon collection and life was softer around the edges.Ā
Second layer is LāOccitane Neroli and OrchidĆ©e: Thereās something about neroli that smells like a WOMAN. This is a classic white flower scent, with a whiff of nectar that feels like a cinematic cut of being on the backseat of a Vespa, with your dress being caught by the sticky summer wind. It dries down like brown sugar on my skin. A restrained sweetness, not saccharine. Itās elegant, romantic, self-assured. If this scent was a movie character, she would be Madame Gina from Porco Rosso.Ā
I imagine our little Chloe girl has grown up and finished her masterās degree and is earning her own money. Sheās got her life together. She buys herself a bouquet of tulips and sets it at the sunniest part of her living room. Sheās intelligent, but never let go of her lightheartedness. She listens to Chet Baker and dreams of summering in Ischia or somewhere in the Peloponnese.Ā
When layered together, we have the sweet innocence of girlhood to the refinement of self-assured adulthood. Theyāre an olfactory journey from the naivety I wish I had, to the quiet sophistication I wish to embody.Ā Ā And Iām just a girl with an office job.Ā
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