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I would suggest setting the intention and using sparingly

Reading through these answers is brutal but here’s my interpretation of dating apps: the longest seriously relationship I have ever been and still am in is from a dating app. they are not engineered to be built for short term use because they lose their value fast if people end up in successful relationships as a result. They’re not designed as a means to an end. they are a time and sometimes money suck and can hollow out the social interactions However They are the most easily accessible option and if you choose to explore that path, being as intentional as possible when curating your profile is important. Sounds sleazy but these apps encourage people to develop a personal brand or become product like, you have to “sell” yourself to demonstrate that you are a good fit for partnership. There’s probably good people out there who are well intentioned who want to find someone I would advise (if you do it) to be specific about what you are looking for, what you like to do for fun, hobbies, and the right people will come if you have shared values. Or just have a profile with a profile pic and no bio and talk your way into things like I did avoid: laundry lists of what turns you on/off, anything that feels inauthentic, such things

@aidanaguirre

Apr 12, 2024

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dating is trial and error

When I was in my 20s and Single I’d go on a Tinder date every Friday, no exceptions. Didn’t matter how long we were talking on the app, or even if I wasn’t 100% sure they were the same vibe as me, as long as they were willing to meet as well. Very trial and error approach to dating and I came out of it with a lot of funny stories and got to know myself better.

@505grapefruit

Mar 24, 2025

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You know what yes!!

Controversial opinion I know, but i met my partner on tinder (we’d actually already met 6 months earlier when we played a gig together but he thought I hated him hahaha). The aspiration is that you’re supposed to meet someone irl, but for me and many other people that’s difficult because of disability. I’m just not in the world as much as others, and dating apps have allowed me to still have romance and sex etc throughout my disability. I think this has helped me see the benefit in dating apps - putting people across your path that you wouldnt otherwise stumble into, and also to match with people you already kind of know so you now know you fancy each other! My sister met her husband on POF (a site rather than an app, but still), because he wasn’t from here so didn’t know many people, and they’d never have met otherwise as he’s an introvert, but a very loving and helpful husband! So yes, if it’s not fun stop using it, if you’re using it to replace other connection stop using it, but if you want to use it as a tool to meet people you wouldn’t otherwise, discover new places in the city, or discover that person you bumped into actually fancied you back, I think go for it.

@mouse

Apr 12, 2024

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WHY THO?

Why not go through the process of blending those images yourself? Why not use process as an experiment? Why AI? What part are you playing? What makes it yours? I think AI is impersonal. I think it is unethical when it has relied on the theft of actual people’s actual physical (and because of the nature of art, often time emotional) labor. I also think it is unnecessary in creating art. I also think the environmental impacts are atrocious. I also think AI’s biggest supporters are being maliciously ignorant because it’s a fun new toy. Is it ease? Is it efficiency? People talk about accessibility as if children don’t use crayons and stickers! As if graffiti artists don’t use postal labels as sticker, as if sand mandalas don’t exist, as if cardboard and tape aren’t in over abundance.

@ugliestbinch

Apr 15, 2025

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Dear God what have i made

@ugliestbinch

Mar 1, 2025

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Tbh, i mostly hate the re-rec feature

Maybe this isn’t so much a fix for staff, but I feel like the reposting of things has gotten a bit lame. I don’t want the “Everyone” feed to be the same post 20 times with nothing added, especially when the thing being re-rec’d isn’t even a real reccomendation in the first place. I like this app because it is different than Instagram and Twitter and tumblr and the like. I feel like people are trying to interact similarly to those other apps here. I feel like we are all drifting back into creating the same social media AGAIN. My vote would be to remove the feature entirely, but I see how it can be used thoughtfully

@ugliestbinch

Mar 3, 2025