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wanting to be wanted

I met with a friend yesterday that I haven’t seen or really spoken to in months. We discovered that during the month of January we both endured similarly painful experiences of being wanted my someone and wanting them in return, only to have that person take everything back within the span of a couple days. It’s a really confusing and jarring feeling and it’s like mourning something that hasn’t even had the chance to begin. During this conversation We reflected a lot on our generation (mid twenties) and how apathetic so many people have become. When did it become a crime to want and be wanted?? As much as I’ve been finding myself and have been on a real journey of self fulfillment lately, I still find myself aching with the loss of this person, or maybe the feeling this person gave me. I wish that someone could love me in the way that I love. I wish oversharing wasn’t a word in our vocabulary and that we could speak freely and from the heart at all times. Im so done being casual and nonchalant and apathetic; I care so much I can’t stand it.

@emmmmuh

Feb 8, 2025

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Is it jealousy or desire, or am i just overthinking

The last birthday i had people come to gather to celebrate was when I turned 21. It was small but it was a sole group of people I love, some I miss, and one who has sadly passed. Ever since that day, no one has ever surprised me or tried to do anything for my birthday. I usually spend them alone, in turn makes me quite sad and amplifies my desire for likeminded people to share time with. Not my birthday…but I’m 25 now and seeing all of those people move on, come together every once ina while for occasions, and go their own ways makes me miss them a lot. I’ve kept in touch with 1 but recently It feels like that’s over as well. I just want to be apart of something. Everyday I want to reach out to these people, and I feel the need to apologize, and explain myself, end express how much I’ve loved seeing them grow into their own. I talk myself out everyday. Out of fear? Not focusing on my own needs? Or not knowing if they want to even talk to me anymore. Part of me feels tainted, conditioned to the idea that I destroy anything I touch or anyone I talk to. I want to be apart, Be with people I admire. Get invited to things. Do things with others. But all the doors to those opportunities feel closed. I may have been the one to close those doors but they don’t feel closed to me. I miss these people very much and want them in my life.

@_max_hart

Mar 11, 2025

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You Aren’t Alone — we all are

From the Atlantic: ”There is no statistical record of any other period in U.S. history when people have spent more time on their own.” I don’t know anything about you—how funny is that? I couldn’t even begin to guess what your life looks like. I couldn’t spot you in a crowd. If I were a friend, I’m sure I could give better advice. Perhaps suggest joining a local group  I know of, or a class at the gym that always puts me in a good mood. Perhaps introduce you to someone I’ve always thought you’d get along with.  The beautiful thing about the internet is that you can ask this question to the void and the void speaks back. It’s so much easier this way, but so much worse.  Geography, family, shared interests, shared labor. Community used to be inescapable. We still depend on each other for everything, but we do it all at a distance. I’ll chat for an hour with a friend across the country, but I know nothing about the people across the street. It’s a selling point if the grocer can name the farmer who grew your food. I could have been writing this to send to a distant family member, who I want to reconnect with, or an old friend—instead I’m writing to you, a stranger. It’s easier. Our community ties have been broken.  So: what do you, an individual, do? You may find more success if you develop individual friendships tied to a place—several articles about the loneliness epidemic talk about the gym—or a group that meets regularly. Apparently, the best way to beak down peoples’ walls is just to see them constantly. This is true for new friends and for deepening relationships. For those friends and acquaintances you’d like to be closer to, keep inviting them to shit. Set your boundaries, but keep trying. The thing about people is that everybody is interesting and confusing and stupid and wise and mean and wonderful—but it’s safer to spill all that on the internet, where no one can spot you in a crowd. Let people know that you’re around and interested no matter what, and see what happens. It will take a long time, but it’ll be worth it. Not just for you, but for them. For everyone, if we all put the effort in.  I’m sorry—it shouldn’t be this way. But we have to try. We’re all counting on each other <3

@bluz

Apr 23, 2024

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BEING IN CORRECT SPACES ONLINE CAN TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE

Tl;dr I am just talking about how I was lucky to not grow up as an incel Growing up I had no role models and so, me getting out of that alt right mysogynist pipeline was because 13 y/o me saw a video about Nirvana. A few years ago I was part of a subreddit where mostly older girls and ladies were and as I would read their comments i realised the many wrong things i was doing everyday which could end up hurting someone if they ever got together with me. A few weeks ago, i saw a reel where a girl was talking about how frustrating it was when guys ignored menial tasks like throwing socks in laundry and I realised, "oh! I do this sometimes" and ever since I saw it, anytime I ignore such things, i immediately remember that reel and all the comments on it and I just do the whole thing because I don't want to be an asshole because of my ignorance which was a result of me growing up in an environment which enabled my shitty behaviour. I feel like I was lucky in this sense because I inadvertently came across the right places. The creators I grew up with were decent human beings. Not a single youtuber I used to watch growing up ended up being in any controversy. I watched some of them again recently and some are even making videos calling out trash behaviour. It's also worth noting that back in 2014-15 yt was not full of alpha male shit. Everyone was just chilling and playing Minecraft. The video essays were still as great as they are now. If I was born any later, I am afraid I might've fallen down that pipeline and become a completely irredeemable pos.

@megh

Apr 11, 2025

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The west has a major misconception about indians

Not every Indian can have really spicy food. Me personally? My spice tolerance would probably be less that majority of white folks. We eat simple food out here yk. It is full of flavour but it is very simple and not too spicy.

@megh

Mar 18, 2025

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Either I am too good at hiding my gayness or I am a terrible gay person

When people find out about my fruityness they get so shocked and it pisses me off cause if you look at me, you can easily tell 😭😭

@megh

Mar 7, 2025