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(specifically behavioural experiment — really putting my psych degree into good use huh?)
i don't know man but this really helps me get unstuck from an all-or-nothing mindset and the insane analysis paralysis from even doing the most menial of tasks
look just set it from a random number of days and put a random thing to focus on and see what happens
i don't even have to stick to it — this isn't even a "serious/legitimate" experiment at all — i give myself the grace to fail at this "experiment" completely and i try to take as much emotional weight from it as possible
the whole of point me doing this in the first place is ripping off the band-aid: any action is good action at this point, i don't want to ruminate anymore and i want to build momentum (even if it seems embarrassingly insignificant)
if it works out: good!! if it doesn't work out: also good!! the whole point of this is trial and error and honestly just bridging the gap between idea and execution and getting rid of friction between tasks as much as possible...
we can always change the hypothesis and the experiment... back to the drawing board we go!!!
Mar 27, 2025
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I don’t want to be the best at anything, or to make a tonne of money or be famous for my job.
I just want to live life as one big science experiment. To try out different hypotheses, to change different parts of my life if I learn something new, to fail and to try again.
Maybe one year I want to test out what it feels like to be a writer. Maybe the next I want to be a photographer. Maybe tomorrow I decide I want to train for a marathon.
I think life becomes infinitely less terrifying if we see every action as an experiment. That nothing is ever set in stone and that we can change anything whenever we want. Every decision feels less permanent.
There are no failures in experiments, only learning. I think that’s kind of a nice way to live life.
May 26, 2024
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There’s a term I learned that I have found very useful- insight junkies. It is when a person in therapy seeks more and more insight, but never actually heals or transforms any of it. This can be kind of an issue is straight talk therapy- okay we’ve identified the issue, now what?
When you clean out a wound, you need to stop messing with it in order for it to heal. It needs to have some air to breathe. That’s never going to happen if you keep picking at it.
Try things on. Get playful. Make mistakes. TAKE ACTION! Change is not supposed to be easy or comfortable, but that doesn’t mean it can’t also be fun and exciting.
Feb 14, 2025
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feels very trite and toxic positivity-y but (at least for me) i think the problem is feeling pulled in too many different directions with not enough capacity / agency to make meaningful progress in any / all of them; that’s when acedia, anhedonia, et al set in
the solution is to just pick one thing that’s easy, and constantly address it. then do that with another thing. maybe a bigger thing after that. and so on until you’ve re-built (or in my case, built for the first time) trust in yourself that the things you want to, need to, and are capable of doing you will / are doing
throughput is really important, seeing the fruits of your labor is the only reason to keep planting seeds so you just gotta start with stuff that will gratify you enough to keep going (also for me, getting diagnosed + medicated + effective talk therapy-d were all instrumental to this realization / process if that’s something you can / want to look into)
Mar 21, 2024
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Mar 21, 2025
yeah this song fucks
remembered that this song exists very groovy very funky very wow
Mar 16, 2025
absolutely hate how the government is insisting on phasing out bamboo scaffolding and replacing it with steel scaffolding... like why??? bamboo scaffolding is deeply woven into hong kong culture and instantly reminds of home because it's just so unique and so distinctively hongkonger... i fucking hate the lack of efforts of cultural preservation because what else do we have left?
in recent years i could already feel a slow, sinking feeling that the local flavour of hong kong is slowly slipping away... i just don't want the city i was born and raised in to be more and more unrecognisable as time goes on.... even from the tiniest details of everyday life
there are so many iconic landscapes, features and walks of life that i value so much in the city that i just don't want to be seen thrown in the wayside and i know many hongkongers feel this way too
Mar 22, 2025