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have convictions

Kind of obvious but asking yourself what you believe in is really valuable. There’s no pressure to have a deep-rooted belief system or to practice a religion, but having some sort of personal conviction about the world can be comforting and affirming

@subsuume

Feb 4, 2024

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Questioning authority at every moment you can.

If you know your limits and your words, questioning authority becomes courage.

@adrianhoz

Mar 4, 2024

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the lie of how i read

i’m realizing on this app i can’t quite answer some questions that need deep thought. yes, one can think of the answers to “what gives you medium enrichment?” or what ever can provide the small things, but answering for myself has been a whole different question. i’m seeing now that i’m used to memorizing, reciting, and while i understand (how) i do not understand why. ask me about the great sheep panic, the gamma function, but ask me why i like fried chicken. what do i mean to myself! i can’t answer those! there’s average answers but none that outline me. i think that the illusion of using big words to non-open-ended questions and problems is clouding our self reflection. maybe it’s just me though and my lack of sociability that i don’t ask these enough to myself or get asked. just a thought!

@sebbspirit

Jan 17, 2025

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BEING KIND TO KIDS

I’m not a parent and do not plan to be. Kids can wear me out fast with their high energy and noise level; it leaves me very over-stimulated. But it’s pretty extreme when people say they ”hate kids” and I often feel it’s a reflection of their childhood and beliefs around how kids “should be.” That they were expected to be quiet, obedient, and out of the way by their parents when they were little. It’s fucking hard to be a kid. You’re dealing with a rapidly-changing body and underdeveloped brain, managed by flawed adults who are enforcing boundaries that you do not understand. It’s confusing and hard to manage your feelings and honestly just a lot. People are impatient with kids when they‘re brand new to the world and figuring it all out, and this is a time kids need a friend the most. Children can also be teachers to adults with how they are less habituated to the world. They teach us how to be free and open-hearted and silly and imaginative. A good practice is to be kinder and gentler with kids. If that feels difficult, start with gentleness toward your inner child. Maybe that’s the child in your life that needs your attention and kindness most.

@zenlikeme

Apr 16, 2025

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Flower report 03.22.25

I meant to post this yesterday. Absolutely beautiful morning for walk. This morning is also beautiful but in a spring rain kind of way.

@zenlikeme

Mar 23, 2025

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Deconstructing Gender

Prescriptive gender is a prison. Rather than gender being a form of self-expression, gender is treated as a pass/fail test for how well you can conform to cultural expectations. Since I was young, I remember feeling a great deal of pressure to conform to these expectations around what “men” are meant to be. You like sports, cars, womanizing, aggression, and not having feelings. I felt so distant from this ideal. I was sensitive and shy, and I preferred spending my time being creative in some way For a long time, I felt like I was failing at “being a man.” In many ways I was! Because I didn’t need to bea man. All I needed to be was myself. It’s taken me a long time to separate myself from prescriptive gender, sharpening in on which aspects of masculine energy I identify with and which I don’t. I’m not done yet. Maybe I will never fully be. The self continues to evolve over time, and I suspect aspects of my gender will too.

@zenlikeme

Mar 15, 2025