No matter how hard or uncomfortable it is, you have to sit with them, you have to listen to your voices....And if you have the mental energy to do so, write them down.
Often times, the feelings you dismiss as minor end up having the most impact on your overall health (be it mental or physical)....Your body can feel when you're suppressing your emotions and it unfortunately makes you prone to diseases and disorders (believe me, I am currently being diagnosed for crohn's)...You also become more agitated and exhausted without knowing why....
These repressed feelings can be in the form of burn-outs, intrusive thoughts, anxieties, or any strong emotion you face throughout the day. Regardless, you have to address them...
Apr 5, 2025
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Over-intellectualization is an immature egocentric and avoidant coping mechanism so maybe just try to sit with and embody those feelings you’re trying your hardest to repress…
May 20, 2024
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It is actually very unnatural to not feel any anger. Anger is a sign that something is not right. If you have not felt any anger, it is probably because you had been taught to repress it.
From personal experience, it is going to suck for a little bit. When I finally got in touch with my anger, I had been repressing it for 25 years and it felt like it was seeping out of my pores. It felt so unnatural to who I was, but I could not stop it. positive side of this is that I was working with the therapist and I was able to come out the other side. I now understand my anger a lot better and I know how to handle it when I do get angry. It becomes a passing emotion now and not one that I get stuck in.
Remember that this is temporary. Find places to channel it. Work with your therapist to get to the root of why you have all of this anger built up and address it there. It’s important that you treat it at the surface level, but if you don’t get to the bottom of it, you won’t actually integrate it and transform it.
This is part of continuing to grow into a whole human being! Exciting stuff, although it is hard and not always fun. I believe in you though!!
Nov 21, 2024
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I am trying to learn to sit with rejection, look it square in the face, and still be okay.
Running away from painful things — shame, rejection, disappointments with myself or others — and not facing them has been a source of even worse pain and dysfunction.
Balancing these two things: "that really hurts" and "it does not define me" seems to be a healthier way to process.
Sep 25, 2024
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What privilege it is to wake up to the beautiful sun rays beaming from my windows to lighten up my room. What privilege is it that these same windows are bringing a beautiful breeze that tickles my body. What privilege that the same beautiful room decorated by sun shine is the same room that brings me comfort and rest. A space where my self can come out safely. What privilege it is to have a self that is actively taking me to places where I can indulge in delicious foods, listen to eargasmic music, acquire knowledge and be engulfed by the beauty of the life. It is these things that make up the root of my existence, the reason to my being. May I continue to indulge in the beautiness of the otherwise mundane.
Jan 25, 2025
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I think the idea of hating on trendy things for the sake of wanting to be seen as different is very corny. I understand that not developing your own sense of style and copying whatever you see on tiktok or ig without adding your personal touch is an indicator of the lack of creativity, but that (imo) doesn't apply to people that genuinely like the item/style...If you for example like sambas or the leopard print baggy jeans and can get multiple uses out of them then that's great! you're not a microtrend final boss if you wear these items...
Mar 10, 2025
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A couple of months ago I fell into the rabbit hole of productivity. I was listening to motivating podcasts and was actually getting more productive up to a certain point where I started getting burnt out and was experiencing a horrible surge of IBD symptoms.
Every time I gave myself some form of rest I'd feel guilty and be invaded by the voices of boss ladies telling me to get out of bed and do something. Though I'd end up getting up everytime, I was forcing myself to do work I didn't want to do and a result, I became a more irritated and tired person. Unbeknownst to me, I was becoming bed-ridden due to my autoimmune disease and was forcing myself to work through it.
Outcome: My body crashed on me as soon as I finished the term and I didn't get the result I wanted (I got a good GPA overall, but my CGPA is still at a C+ with no chance of raising it again)
This term started and I only have 1 subject and my thesis left and I decided to give my body the chance to rest and detach myself from outcomes since nothing I can do will raise my CGPA to a B.
Outcome: I ended up highly fatigued and can barely get up and do anything. Don't get me wrong, I am doing well in that class I'm in and I got a good chunk of my thesis done, but nonetheless I was exhausted.
I was bedrotting for weeks under the guise of letting go of control and letting the world take me where it wants me to take. At the end I became empty with no energy to do things I actually want to do.
This got me wondering: To what extent should we be productive and when do we give ourselves rest? How do we become productive without burning our bodies out? How do we give ourselves rest without slipping into bed-rotting? How do we get up and become productive after weeks of slump without forcing our bodies to do things it doesn't want? How do we convince a productivity junkie that they need rest and actually enjoy the rest?
How does one get out of this cycle?
Mar 7, 2025