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Really ? You canโt do this alone ? You need support ? You need comfort ? You need help ? Company ? You feel guilty for being needy ?
Is that how you treat yourself ? What a foolish belief. Did you just scrutinize your need for another ? Is that fair ? To anyone ? Ever ?
Apr 6, 2025
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Recently I had a vivid, visceral flashback to the kind of exhaustion I experienced on a daily basis during my last two relationships. I remembered how I couldn't provide my partner with what they needed, and vice-versa. And it clicked for me: I need my independence way more than I need a relationship.
Apr 17, 2025
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It's uncanny, I'm in the exact same situation, but the converse. When there is such a huge gap in knowledge, experience, accomplishment, self-assurance (especially that align with patriarchal gender disparities) how do both navigate so that the one partner is not imposing on the other and overly influencing them.
Bottom line, I think it's an artificial issue. A person who fears dominance by a loving partner is likely dealing more with internal issues than relationship dynamics. To have a mentor as a partner is a boon and the fact is, anyone can learn from anyone if they're truly interested in the person, so it's rarely a one-way street even in the most superficially imbalanced relationships.
Be yourself. For which you need to know yourself. Maybe you're so clueless about yourself that getting to know yourself while worth a person you admire and seem to wish to emulate at the expense of knowing your own desires is not possible. Hogwash. The qualities you listed in him as admirable are nothing more than a reflection of your desires and values.
Take it easy. You're fine. Stop this ridiculous obsession of your generation with co-dependency. Unless you don't know how to file your taxes, do your laundry, hold down a job, manage your life, etc. without him, bask and learn from his qualities and achievements that you laud.
Jul 23, 2024
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ask yourself these questions: Why are you unable to live a fulfilling life without a relationship? Do you not have hobbies, friendships, purpose in your life as it is?
I say this as someone who's been single for three years: Thank God I don't have to share a bed with someone else, Thank God I can have the weekly alone time I need to recover my sanity, Thank God I don't have to negotiate or justify anything with anyone else.
Feb 27, 2025
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Seeing your โto doโsโ events or reminders as a physical part of your space is a good method to get to it.
Mar 3, 2025
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on which leverage did you allow yourself to believe I owed you to be the same as you always knew me. Interesting how the selfishness unfolds like the knots on my back you got used to seeing curved. Isnโt anymore.
Mar 3, 2025
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Pro Tip : Use the โ Replacement of habitโ skill to cause change to occur. Once that happened, immediately follow up with โ Dazzling curiosityโ for most efficiency.
Mar 4, 2025