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it may be cringe. it may have been said before. but sometimes, after we are continuously exposed to the same phrases we start hearing them as background noise, hearing them without actually fully listening to them and applying them to our lives. your reality is literally whatever you choose to make it!!! and you are the only one who is truly in control of that and can truly shape that. i absolutely hate the tumblr romanticizaction of sadness and the notion that āpositive/happy people are stupid or ignorantā and that ānegative people are broody and intelligent because they see the world for what it truly isāš„. it is so damaging to think that way, on the first-hand, to yourself, and it is soooo easy to fall into a mindset where you victimize yourself. on the other hand, it is so difficult to be in a negative circumstance or surrounded by negative things and purposely choose not to wallow in your misery and to instead take control of your life and concentrate on the positive parts of it instead. YOU are the one who has to live in your own brain at the end of the day- why would you want to make it an uninhabitable environment? youāre basically the architect of a new house in creative mode on minecraft and youāre choosing to build a dirt block house instead of a mansion. (ofc this is a generalized statement and it is so valid to be sad and be going through it when youāre going through adverse circumstances. i donāt want to advocate for toxic positivity and i think itās so important to recognize and feel your emotions, good or bad! Denying/avoiding your emotions is also extremely damaging. also acknowledging that this can come easier or harder to different people in different circumstances.but regardless, at the end of the day, you are in charge of how you respond to your circumstances!) it is so easier said than done, especially if youāre in a rough patch of your life or have built a habit of romanticizing your sadness. this is something I have to remind myself of all the time too- tldr: negativity should be acknowledged and experienced, and not a basis for identity.
Apr 11, 2025
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been working hard to internalize a quote i read online recently. it says āthe time will pass anyway whether i handle it emotionally or notā¦ how utterly pointless to suffer so much & still choose to be miserableā. reminds me of that old Seneca quote, Something about the man who worries before necessary, suffers twice. when things already suck, i still have the option to be happy & make things better for myself. i know it sounds easier said than done but many times Iāve found myself rejecting this notion when a little bit of kindness towards myself, a deep breath & some patience wouldāve gotten me through. every Moment is an opportunity to turn things around & make myself happy. gratitude helps a lot w this. blurting This all out here coz i know itās an idea ill soon forget once im actually in the throes of a tough time āļø
Mar 18, 2025
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like... seriously. what's the harm in believing that everything will work out? obviously shit happens and there's definitely a chance things won't end up going your way, but what good does believing that serve you? does believing you won't succeed make your life better in any way? just want to think with more intention this year.. being more aware of how my thought patterns seep into my actions and behavior. it's so obvious, but it really is the simplest things that take the most time and effort to really understand..
i'd rather take on my life through a more optimistic lens than constantly expecting the worst, digging myself into a hole of self-pity and misery
Jan 7, 2025
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Go outside and focus on one thing: greenery. Every time you see it, smile -- and you'll find yourself smiling more than you think.
At the end of the day, like hinted in your question, it's all about perspective. Let yourself feel the feelings, but know that in the grand scheme of things -- all these issues are breaking down so people like us, the optimists, can take inspired action to create better solutions that serve society today and thus inspire more positive action to be taken by those influenced by our actions.
Hope that helps <3
PS https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8TBuGMh/
Feb 13, 2024
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I <3 keeping track of the things that I love!!! (I have a horrible memory I canāt remember shit). In/Out lists. To/Do lists. Pro/Con lists. Books to read. Movies to watch. Bucket lists. Dreams. anyway shoutout lists 4 acting as my artificial hippocampus fr šš
Apr 9, 2025
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im a uni student & i constantly feel like im just going through the motions.. a paper bag drifting through the windā¦ rather than executing my free will and doing the things i want to be doing. i want to be more intentional with my time and how I spend it bc life is so short!!! life is too short to get caught up and distracted in the constant stimulations from the world & to shrink into a shell of yourself and rot away!! uninstalled instagram today, gonna start with being more intentional about the content that i consume :) in a time where thereās so much constant media out there and a majority of it is quite literal brain rot (soulless corporate advertisement made for a quick 15 second dopamine hit, monetary gain, or an ai copy) rather than art made from the heartā¦ i donāt want to lose touch w that humanity, i want to consume and create peopleās intentional art :3 as well as be more intentional with my own actions
Apr 7, 2025
oh to hear the birds chirping at the crack of dawn and seeing the sky get light again while u make the 76th slide for ur google presentationā¦ these r the moments we live 4 š (coping) (I graduate next month & will miss it tho)
Apr 10, 2025