I grew up in a suburb in IL and definitely knew I would get out of there and move to the “big city” aka Chicago asap. So, I did that, and then the person I was deeply in love with moved to Denver.
Eventually, my partner convinced me to move out of Chicago (kicking and screaming). I honestly did not love Colorado at first, but it‘s been 7 years it has grown on me and I’m glad I came here. However, we still aren’t sure this is where will stay permanently and always toy around with the idea of living somewhere else.
It’s fun challenging yourself to leave your comfort zone - your network of friends, family, colleagues. It’s nice to have the option of solidarity, as well. I know some people are cool with living in the same place their whole life, but I would have regrets.
The world is such a fun place - get out there and explore! See what calls to you, and lean into that. Once you make a big leap like moving away, you learn who you really are and what you’re capable of. You will meet people and have experiences along the way that you might not have by staying home.
Apr 12, 2025
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I lived in Massachusetts for 28 years until 1 year ago today when I moved to NYC. I was feeling stagnant and afraid that I’d be there forever if I didn’t make a change. I am happy to say it was one of the best decisions I‘ve made. I don’t know if I’ll be here forever but I‘ve learned more about myself in 1 year than the last 5 and that’s something I’ll always be thankful for. I’ve made new friends, reconnected with old, gotten a new job, moved apartments, and had an enumerable unforgettable memories.
If you are feeling stuck where you have always been, I recommend making a change because it will be both one of the more challenging and rewarding decisions you make.
p/c riotgrrrl
Aug 12, 2024
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sometimes you have to ground yourself. Get out of that superficial city you lie to yourself as you refer to it as ”home.” Leave the instagram likes and 4am parties behind and go see your family. They miss you. Go repair that relationship with your father/mother, visit your old high school - drink a beer and stargaze with your childhood friends as you reminisce on how good you had it back then. Plot. Make your plots. Come back to said wretched city ready to capitolize. Or don’t. Move to a different city - or never leave home. Don’t be afraid of comfort, don’t get too used to it either.
Mar 13, 2024
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was so so so obsessed with leaving for so long but as of late i’ve come to resent the nyc/la brain drain epidemic and i’ve also come to appreciate the importance of trying to build community where you are for the people who can’t afford to leave.
if this last push doesn’t work out though i’m definitely gone for sure lmao
Apr 12, 2025
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Everyone stfu people are yelling outside, I need to hear what they’re saying!!
Mar 21, 2025
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I’m usually like 3-10 mins late to everything so I’m relieved when someone else is running late, too. Punctual people stress me out in a casual setting!!
Mar 25, 2025
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My friend Pia and I were looking for another roomie bc the other girl bailed. Pia got the word out to some people in the burbs, he (future lover) happened to be there and said he was down to move in. Out of desperation from searching, I didn’t care who lived with us as long as they paid rent.
We met the day we moved in and became super close friends, it was always respectful, platonic, best-buds type shit. We lived together for 2 years, Pia moved out after year 1. He ended up moving to CO after a life altering change.
The day he left was when I realized he was the perfect ”one” for me. I legit cried for weeks straight and we texted non stop every day. He came back a month later and said he really came back for me <3 8 years later, we’re still together and getting married on our 10 year roomie anniversary in October! Sometimes they’re right under your nose, or in this case, under the same roof ;)
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