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I got sat down by three of my best friends a few weeks ago about my overall attitude / humor / sarcasm. They said they could tell that life was weighing on me in a way that was making me more cynical, meaner and combative. It was hard hear that from friends. One of them hit me with a zinger — “We don’t think it’s any concern to your life as a husband or dad today, but we’re scared it might be in the future.” — BRUTAL. But they were right. Work was really weighing on me in a negative way and I needed a wake up call. It was stern and loving. And I’m thankful for them and their initiative to approach me about it. Here’s to getting better + really accepting their thoughts as valid and working through them.
Apr 14, 2025
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You’re so lucky to have a community that can be brutally honest—out of love!! Sending you some sunshine today 🐥🌤️
Apr 15, 2025
@MOSSYELFIE I appreciate it!!! I knew I wasn’t being myself but I didn’t know other people saw it too.
Apr 15, 2025
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I went home for the weekend and realized just how differently I think about things in relation to my family. Sometimes having difficult conversations are exactly that-- difficult. But I also think that they're immensely helpful, we can be so biased towards family because we love them so much, but sometimes we have to be able to hold them accountable of their toxic mindset. It's not to say that I love my family any less, it's just to say that we can't put the people we love dearly on a pedestal; especially because it hurts even more when they sometimes disappoint us. Love deeply, but-- sometimes-- love cautiously too!
Apr 6, 2025
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if you're stuck on something it's nice to get a big metaphorical smack across the noggin by a clear-eyed confidante, whether it's a homie or a family member or a therapist that can give you a fresh and radical perspective and stop you from rutting around in the circle of repetitive brooding. If you've been trying to work something out or been engaging in some negative self talk, ask someone to listen for a few mins and then tell you that you're being ridiculous. everyone needs it sometimes.
Aug 22, 2024
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(Note: this isn't a replacement for addressing bad behavior, leaving toxic situations, etc.)
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I had two roommates and one of them was often a real jerk. He was a bit older and he'd lecture us other two about our lives and on a range of issues.
Over time, I'd find that the other roommate and I would trash talk the jerk when he wasn't around.
One time the two of us were sitting in a diner late at night, complaining about the other guy, and we just decided for some reason to change the script. "Let's say what we appreciate about him."
So we did. It was difficult at first, but going back and forth we were able to identify a bunch of stuff that we liked about him. "His beard is great." "He likes good books." "He wants to see people thrive."
Then we headed back to our apartment and to our surprise we were actually looking forward to seeing him. And he seemed like he was looking forward to seeing us.
Things got easier after that. I realized that my expectations and posture toward him was part of the issue—I was getting the negativity that I was saying I was expecting. And so altering my words was a really good step toward fixing my lens and adjusting my heart.
Nov 14, 2024
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In all seriousness — weird that an app I downloaded in April would make genuinely want to drive back into Brooklyn during end of day traffic for a happy hour. Great app filled with great people.
Jul 20, 2024
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I feel like there’s a special connectivity on this app that I haven’t felt in a long time, maybe since early 2010’s tumblr. The fact that you can’t promote yourself like IG is wonderful. The fact that there isn’t mass video content like Tik Tok is great. It’s not this monetized / paid sponsorship app. People are here because they want to be a part of something with nothing to gain besides friendship. Seeing the URL -> IRL meetups warms my heart so much (waiting for an NYC or Brooklyn meetup).
Thanks for your participation on this niche little app. I smile reading all the recs and all the comments and all the asks. Hope we’ll all be here for a long time.
Jun 15, 2024
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I think a life rule for me is to surround myself with people who know more / are smarter / are cooler than me and just absorb their aura by listening / observing them. It’s made me the incredibly smart / cool person you all know and love.
I just never thought I’d feel the same way about URL friends. I’m constantly listening to the songs I see posted here, reading the articles, subbing to newsletters, and googling topics that get tossed onto the feed.
It’s nice to know you can become a more rounded person by just absorbing what your mutuals post on here. I’m going to sit on my couch, have a cocktail and digest my lovely feed. Happy Sunday!
Sep 15, 2024