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Why do I want to be healthy/ier?
I saw a series on tt that goes "Things that make me want to be healthy that have nothing to do with men or wanting to be beautiful". It's one of the most relevant and beautiful things the algorithm has blessed me with recently. I've been thinking about starting a light weight loss fitness journey but I couldn't find it in me to go through with it because a) working out sucks, and b) I don't even know WHY I want to do it. I don't want to feed old attitudes and mentalities that motivated me to be "healthier" in a way when I was younger but absolutely butchered my relationship with my body. *Shrugging girl emoji
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@FreeloaderHassu
Apr 23, 2025
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@Jai
Yes!! So glad someone else is practicing this as well! What I find helps me in discovering my “why” is asking myself “what will this do for me?” My “why” currently is that I want to go on hikes with friends and explore cities for longer so walking more helps me reach my goal and is a healthy addition to my lifestyle. I also have reframed what exercise looks like for me. It could be a dance class, walking in the city, going to a community pool, it doesn’t have to be a gym and weights. Exercise should look like moving your body, not suffering. You’re not alone in discovering what you health looks like without centering beauty and men :)
Apr 23, 2025
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Not counting calories or weighing yourself
and focusing instead on making reasonably healthy, self-compassionate, consistent choices and moving your body in ways that make you feel good. We’re assaulted with numbers, data, and metrics everywhere else in life why let it creep into your relationship with food and your body!!! It takes time and practice to do this right and find balance without descending into total uninhibited hedonism but it can be freeing to live this way. Controversial perhaps…
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@taterhole
Apr 30, 2024
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this may not be the advice you want to hear
but I fear that maybe you should not be trying to lose weight as a goal itself. Maybe you could shift your goal instead to something achievable and concrete that will help set healthy habits but won’t leave you dwelling on your weight? I like trying to be strong enough to do a thing I presently cannot do. (I can do push ups now, baybeee!!) I have been working on healing my relationship to food and my body for over 10 years now and I still cannot healthily set a weight loss goal. My strategy is to literally never think about my weight, eat whatever I want, move my body every day, and cook at home often. I’m stronger, happier, and healthier than I have ever been in my life and all I have sacrificed is a little negative self talk (n I don’t miss her at all). Godspeed, good luck, wishing you health and happiness and wholeness !!!
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@cilantro
Jul 10, 2024
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BEATING ANA
Why would I be anorexic when I can walk, work out 3–4 times a week, play tennis or padel on the weekends, and eat healthy—just like my amazing nutritionist mom, taught me? Having an eating disorder is for miserable people, and I’m NOT miserable anymore. I think being anorexic in your 20’s is sad, I already have various chronic illnesses and problems from it, take care of your body it’s a temple, you can look however you want in a healthy way. ♥️ I hate seeing millenials glamourizing anorexia and then complaining about how they can’t have babys, or forgetting to mention the horrible parts that come with it…I want to be a mother one day, run around with my child and break all the negative patterns I had to suffer, I wanna grow old, healthy and fabulous, anorexia is not the way, Recovery is real. Sending love to you all.
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