My sister sent me an Instagram Reel (sheās a millennial) saying exactly this last night. I had a hard time trusting One-of-Top-Three American Matchmakers, Lily Wombleās, words- maybe because I refuse to believe in matchmaking as a career, or maybe because the NYC dating scene has made me completely jaded. However, the more I thought about it, the more it made sense. You canāt really say something embarrassing to someone that gets you.
I donāt mean this in a letās enforce toxic positivity way. And maybe this sounds simple and obvious but Iāve learned from my own experience and observations that it can be off-putting to others to always be complaining, criticizing, or saying negative things! It can really bring the energy down whether itās in interactions with close friends, significant others, family, coworkers, dates, or strangers and it doesnāt make people feel good. This isnāt to say that you should never have critical thoughts, engage in difficult conversations, or share your heavy emotions with people you trust. but I think this is something people can do without even realizing itās a pattern for them and it has an effect on your own psyche as well imoā¦ and it feels great to bring a little light into someoneās day š¦ļø
We analyze our mistakes and accidents but successful people typically donāt know what they did that made them successful (or it was money/connections). 2. If my brain says something rude about me, something that would make me want to punch someone who said it about my friend, I throw it right out. Not even I get to be rude to me.
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For whatever reason I keep posting and then deleting my recs immediately. Iāve gotten shy on here. I used to be so bold. I donāt know what happened !!!
Iām currently in the back seat of my friendās car listening to their future plans. Itās lowkey terrifying me. Howeverā¦.take this as your sign that you donāt have to know what you want. Youāre not alone!!!
