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Being familiar enough with your inner voice to recognize patterns of speech and at which emotions they arise so you can best manage your reaction. For example, Iāve for whatever reason switched from saying āshut the fuck up cuntlickerā to āfuck you and fuck your momā when I have a thought that makes me feel bad and I know to fogetaboudit. Itās like noting in meditation and Iāve recognized the patterns in my language to know that whenever these phrases cross my mind throughout the day to move on from the thought I was having, to let it lie unstirred, and I can carry on with peace of mind after a minor subconscious interruption. I think the abrasiveness may also really help stop a thought in its tracks.
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if youāre person with anxiety like me or a person who experiences misogyny (also me) then chances are you could always get a little meaner when it comes to asking acceptable behaviour of others. looking back on times when, in the moment, i was worried that i was being too harsh by telling people how they can treat me, retrospectively i have almost never ever in my life felt i did the wrong thing. realizing this has made standing up for myself 10x easier every time i find myself needing to. showing others grace is not incompatible with showing up for yourself, in fact, one necessitates the other!
Mar 14, 2024
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i could never understand why i lacked the tools to distance myself from people who hurt me and kept hurting me. iād always go back, iād always āforgive,ā and iād always fawn (try and be better because itās obviously my fault i wasnāt perfect, duh.) .
there has been a recent shift in my life where i will feel physically angry when iām subjected to mistreatment. sometimes iāll put it aside in favor of my fears but sometimes i feel it and let it be.. and when i do, i find i have the power to uphold simple boundaries that protect me from the mistreatment. itās the darndest thing (would you believe it if i said iām black?)
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This one kind of feels retro. But the only effective thing that worked so far is to replace it with something good.
Apr 13, 2024
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When I get off an 8 hour shift after waking up at 4:30 and start rethinking everything I said and feeling like everyone hates me I remember I literally donāt know what Iām talking about and am in no condition to weigh in on such things
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