you can’t examine it directly, only through its side effects. the feeling itself is beyond words, but we can make rough estimations of it through its byproducts. for me, the biggest one is a quieting feeling in my soul, like the thing in my chest stops kicking for a second when i’m with them. my constant desire to find the next big shiny thing fades away, and all i care about is understanding them as well as one human can understand another.
that, and the feeling that you get when you’re on one of those damned frogger rides and it drops from the top. everything in you screams that something is wrong but you cling to your harness and for a moment you laugh and you scream and you fly.
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The closest thing I can compare it to is that it feels similar to how I love my absolute best friends (the ones I would take a bullet for without hesitation). Except slightly different and combined with feelings of lust. Romantic love feels warm and important like all other types of strong love, yet maybe it feels more glittery. That's the best I can describe it for you. If you ever are in love, you will know. Even if it takes awhile to realise it happened (I usually go through a bit of denial). If it never happens for you, then that's chill too. There's so many other experiences out there and at least then you are spared the pain of romantic heartbreak. Bc experiencing romantic love often also leads to experiencing a lot of romantic heartbreak unfortunately.
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Love feels like you have a safe space among all of the chaos in the world. Like a deep breath in of clean fresh air after being in the smog of a busy city all day. When you get good news, like a promotion or a new favorite song, you want to tell them immediately. You value their view of the world, and you would do anything to see the world through their eyes.
Love can be so sweet, but it can be a challenge to recover from. It's hard to not compare new experiences to the sweet taste of love. You have to look for it everywhere, in every conversation, art piece, and breath. It can be magical yet so painful at the same time.
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Honestly I could be some type of ace so this might be absolute nonsense. But I have loved a couple people and it has felt different every time. And I feel like it also feels different when you're in love with someone who loves you back vs when they don't. The desire to be closer, wanting more and more of a person. But if you have them, feeling settled when they are around. For me the way I love every person feels different. So it's hard to compare and hard to describe. Maybe this means I haven't truly been in love with anyone at all. I feel like I have. The love I feel for my closest friends is still love. It's warm and bright. It makes you more present. You think of them more. Everything else fades into the background.
I wouldn't think about it too hard. There are millions of songs and stories and movies about it. But it's so case specific. You should just nurture the types of relationship and love that you have and that you want to keep. Explore what you feel a desire to explore. I get wanting a confidant and feeling lonely, you should look into queer platonic relationships maybe.
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